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So I guess we're not allowed to be upset because someone else has it worse?

Posted by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:27 AM
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I see it in real life and on here a lot.
Someone airing out their frustrations and someone telling them it could be worse.
For example, on here:
A woman is frustrated because her SO broke his legs and now everything rests on her shoulders.
And someone will come in with "well my SO died from blah, blah. Deal with it."
Or someone being upset or overwhelmed with their child and there's always someone who'll say " I have three SN kids, you don't have a problem"
Or someone got their hours cut at work and it's causing financial difficulties. And there's always that one " I was out of work for years, at least you still have a job"

With most these posts all the mom needs is some encouraging words and some support, even if it's virtual.
Why one up or one down the person?
Can they not be upset or overwhelmed because it could be worse?

Just a vent

Any thoughts?
by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:27 AM
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by Anonymous 1 on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:31 AM
I know there's a name for that behavior, I just can't think what it is right now. It basically comes down to competition. They can't argue that their life is better so they argue that it's worse.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:33 AM
One upping?

Quoting Anonymous: I know there's a name for that behavior, I just can't think what it is right now. It basically comes down to competition. They can't argue that their life is better so they argue that it's worse.
HistoryNutty
by Ruby Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:33 AM
The one-upper?

Quoting Anonymous: I know there's a name for that behavior, I just can't think what it is right now. It basically comes down to competition. They can't argue that their life is better so they argue that it's worse.
leksismommy
by Platinum Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:33 AM
That is an interesting concept, isn't it?

Quoting Anonymous: I know there's a name for that behavior, I just can't think what it is right now. It basically comes down to competition. They can't argue that their life is better so they argue that it's worse.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:33 AM
I've never understood that, either. We're all entitled to our own feelings.
Cymbeline
by Platinum Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:33 AM
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I was raised with this belief. It's incredibly unhealthy.

The ones who need to compare scars for attention are ridiculous. When someone speaks of something difficult, they'll loudly exclaim that some irrelevant group of people have it harder or just as hard.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:34 AM
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I agree. They just want attention and they want to be the center of the pity party and cant let others join in.

Lilith23
by Platinum Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:34 AM
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Huge Bitch? Maybe that's the term.

Quoting Anonymous: I know there's a name for that behavior, I just can't think what it is right now. It basically comes down to competition. They can't argue that their life is better so they argue that it's worse.
Lilith23
by Platinum Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:35 AM
I say; my struggle isn't more or less painful than yours.
Roxygurl
by Emerald Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:36 AM
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I've seen that or the well be grateful for what you do have line.

People need to vent from time to time and I can't stand the ones that have to tell you how much worse they have it.
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