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Seriously?? "DONT give him meds!!" (EDIT #2!!!))) (EDIT*****)

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My kindergartner is being evaluated for ADHD on Thursday. He struggles greatly at school to be attentive and is extremely impulsive, to the point he has gotten hurt. Just last Friday he took off during recess and fell on some pavement in a roped off area and got a concussion. He cannot sit still, he always needs to be fidgeting or changing postitions. Academically he is showing improvements, but he needs an aide to help him stay on task and to follow instructions, he has an awful time paying attention, etc. He is such a love, very outgoing and happy, has a great time at school, but he struggles both at school and at home with following directions and impulsiveness, and unfortunately its hard on all of us, especially him.

Long story short is, I mentioned casually to my sister that he was going for the eval on Thursday, and her immediate reaction was, "YOU CANNOT GIVE HIM MEDS!!". She went on to say they are bad for kids, they dont help, and that it is sad that parents medicate their kids. She doesnt even have kids.

Wtf? I dont even know for sure if he does have ADHD yet (even though our doctor said she would be amazed if it was negative), and she's freaking out over giving him medications, without even asking what kind of a plan we might even have for him! DH and I have already discussed trying dietary changes and behavioral changes if we can help, and we are not opposed at all to giving him a medication that might help him thrive. The point is we dont want to hold him back by not helping him, kwim? And she all of a sudden is breathing down my neck about it being "bad"...

Grrrrr. Whats your take on ADHD meds? Did you decide to give them? Did you decide against them?

 

EDIT**** I just wanted to say thank you to all the moms here who had something helpful to say, whether they chose to medicate or not. Its not a decision we face lightly, and we want to be prepared for the eventuality of having to choose what to do.

To the people (few) who had nothing nice to say- well, take your rudeness elsewhere. I need constructive ideas and thoughts to decide how to help my child thrive. Criticizing my parenting when you are a complete inernet stranger does absolutely nothing and is not helpful at all.. (;

Also, a little info I forgot to include in my OP:

DS is seven, he turned 7 in December. He repeated preschool before moving up to prek and was not ready for kindergarten until this year. He has been on an IEP since his second year of preschool. He has received OT and has had a classroom aide since his IEP began and he attends summer sessions as well. He has always received evals that include his inability to attend (that means can not pay attention), impulsiveness, and inability to sit still when appropriate. Without the teachers he has had I dont even want to know where we would be, they have been amazing and have helped him/us tremendously, so this isnt a situation where he has teachers or parents who "just dont want to deal with him".

At this point, with proper evaluation of course, medication is on the table as a possibility. DS is impulsive to the point he has gotten hurt, he gets in trouble on the bus and it has become a safety issue. and we dont want to see him fall further and further behind- the grades will only get more and more challenging. Some people may think a kindergartner is too young for this, but with his age and the consideration of the fact that school will only get more and more challenging, we want to be proactive. We dont want to hold back on doing something that will only help DS be more of the amazing little boy he is.

Hope that all makes sense, sorry this got really long!!!

 

EDIT #2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am completely blown away with all the responses I have gotten about this! Thank you to everyone who has responded, whatever choice you have made or would make about how to treat your child for this. I know its a very personal decision and it is not one we are making lightly. I'm fortunate to have a great pediatrician for our son who is helping us down this road and his eval went very well, considering the fact that DS couldnt even bear to sit still while we were in the Ped's office! Our ped actually has ADD himself, which was a huge plus for our DH to hear. He is not quick to prescribe medication, all though in our case we are ahead of many of the steps he would usually suggest first (like, IEP or 504 plans at school, responsibility charts, etc, to help him through the day, etc etc). I just wanted to say thank you and I am very encouraged to hear how many of your children have truly thrived either because of their ADHD medication or that they have thrived without it as well. THANK YOU EVERYONE!!!!!!

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:50 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:56 PM
My brother has had it since he was a kid. Medication was the only thing that helped. My parents tried everything from dietary changes to changing their parenting style. Its always a good to look into other options first. I think medicating kids should only be a last resort. But you do what's best for him.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:56 PM

 no, we have not.

Quoting kmorales7690: Have you tried essential oils?

 

cinnamonkiti
by Platinum Member on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:56 PM
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Ask her if she would have a problem with you giving your child insulin if he was an insulin dependent diabetic, or anti rejection medication if he had a transplant....

If her answer is "Of course not"(which I suspect it would be) then ask her why she has a problem with you medicating your son for an "invisible" disorder, when she wouldn't have a problem medicating for a visible one.

JackAttacks
by Angel on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:56 PM

 This is what makes sense in my brain but honestly I havent done enough research on it to really form a solid opinion. Bump for more answers though!

Quoting Anonymous: I think they are fine as an absolute last resort. But I don't believe in giving meds unless you have already tried changing his diet, upping his exercise and implementing a proper rewards system. Which most people don't.

 

summerlove3677
by Platinum Member on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:56 PM
What kind of test will your child be taken to determine if he has it?
Aamy
by Ruby Member on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:56 PM

My DD takes meds for ADD. Its helped her so much.

Momniscient
by Ruby Member on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:57 PM
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Tell your sister to put google and her silly mommy blogs away and mind her own children.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:58 PM
Meds are awful, but sometimes they are needed.

Have you tried caffeine? It has a calming effect on children with ADHD.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:58 PM

My DH and I waited almost 5 years before trying meds on our son.  DS has ASD and ADHD.  After 3 years of minimal to no academic progression, we decided to give a low dosage a try.  Our theory was that if we did not like the side effects or didn't see improvement, we would take him off the meds.  The improvement was almost immediate and not only can he focus well, he can tell us what it feels like when he is not on his meds - his brain feels "all jumbled".

Alison_C
by Silver Member on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:58 PM
The meds help some kids, and don't with others. The decision should be left between you and his doctor. Your sister just needs to butt out.
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