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Seriously?? "DONT give him meds!!" (EDIT #2!!!))) (EDIT*****)

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My kindergartner is being evaluated for ADHD on Thursday. He struggles greatly at school to be attentive and is extremely impulsive, to the point he has gotten hurt. Just last Friday he took off during recess and fell on some pavement in a roped off area and got a concussion. He cannot sit still, he always needs to be fidgeting or changing postitions. Academically he is showing improvements, but he needs an aide to help him stay on task and to follow instructions, he has an awful time paying attention, etc. He is such a love, very outgoing and happy, has a great time at school, but he struggles both at school and at home with following directions and impulsiveness, and unfortunately its hard on all of us, especially him.

Long story short is, I mentioned casually to my sister that he was going for the eval on Thursday, and her immediate reaction was, "YOU CANNOT GIVE HIM MEDS!!". She went on to say they are bad for kids, they dont help, and that it is sad that parents medicate their kids. She doesnt even have kids.

Wtf? I dont even know for sure if he does have ADHD yet (even though our doctor said she would be amazed if it was negative), and she's freaking out over giving him medications, without even asking what kind of a plan we might even have for him! DH and I have already discussed trying dietary changes and behavioral changes if we can help, and we are not opposed at all to giving him a medication that might help him thrive. The point is we dont want to hold him back by not helping him, kwim? And she all of a sudden is breathing down my neck about it being "bad"...

Grrrrr. Whats your take on ADHD meds? Did you decide to give them? Did you decide against them?

 

EDIT**** I just wanted to say thank you to all the moms here who had something helpful to say, whether they chose to medicate or not. Its not a decision we face lightly, and we want to be prepared for the eventuality of having to choose what to do.

To the people (few) who had nothing nice to say- well, take your rudeness elsewhere. I need constructive ideas and thoughts to decide how to help my child thrive. Criticizing my parenting when you are a complete inernet stranger does absolutely nothing and is not helpful at all.. (;

Also, a little info I forgot to include in my OP:

DS is seven, he turned 7 in December. He repeated preschool before moving up to prek and was not ready for kindergarten until this year. He has been on an IEP since his second year of preschool. He has received OT and has had a classroom aide since his IEP began and he attends summer sessions as well. He has always received evals that include his inability to attend (that means can not pay attention), impulsiveness, and inability to sit still when appropriate. Without the teachers he has had I dont even want to know where we would be, they have been amazing and have helped him/us tremendously, so this isnt a situation where he has teachers or parents who "just dont want to deal with him".

At this point, with proper evaluation of course, medication is on the table as a possibility. DS is impulsive to the point he has gotten hurt, he gets in trouble on the bus and it has become a safety issue. and we dont want to see him fall further and further behind- the grades will only get more and more challenging. Some people may think a kindergartner is too young for this, but with his age and the consideration of the fact that school will only get more and more challenging, we want to be proactive. We dont want to hold back on doing something that will only help DS be more of the amazing little boy he is.

Hope that all makes sense, sorry this got really long!!!

 

EDIT #2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am completely blown away with all the responses I have gotten about this! Thank you to everyone who has responded, whatever choice you have made or would make about how to treat your child for this. I know its a very personal decision and it is not one we are making lightly. I'm fortunate to have a great pediatrician for our son who is helping us down this road and his eval went very well, considering the fact that DS couldnt even bear to sit still while we were in the Ped's office! Our ped actually has ADD himself, which was a huge plus for our DH to hear. He is not quick to prescribe medication, all though in our case we are ahead of many of the steps he would usually suggest first (like, IEP or 504 plans at school, responsibility charts, etc, to help him through the day, etc etc). I just wanted to say thank you and I am very encouraged to hear how many of your children have truly thrived either because of their ADHD medication or that they have thrived without it as well. THANK YOU EVERYONE!!!!!!

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 1, 2014 at 12:50 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 12, 2014 at 6:31 AM
Thanks. We have discussed it further and will probably go forward with meds, starting with something hopefully mild and low dose. We do try to keep the whole family on a healthy diet- we definitely avoid HFCS and MSG (yuck) and many additives, most of what we eat is from scratch, a huge amount of our produce is from our garden, etc etc, but we are not 100% every day when it comes to dyes, sometimes they get treats. I know they can be hidden in things like even apples, crazy!

Quoting SAMandy:

To not give meds when they could clearly help is like setting him up to fail. As parents, we need to advocate for our children  give them the fairest chance at succeeding in life. Getting rid of colorants, artificial flavor and preservatives, MSG and HFCS made a huge difference in my daughter's physical restlessness but only meds helped her thoughts stop spinning. 

djs3kids
by Member on Apr. 12, 2014 at 6:38 AM
Whatever choice you make is your decision but please becareful on what meds are given.......when I was growing up my best friends brother died from taking Ritalin(sp?)
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 12, 2014 at 6:54 AM
My DS is also 7 and was diagnosed with ADHD and autism last year. He just started taking meds for the ADHD. I was against meds so we tried every available option first but none of it helped him so I decided to try the meds and its really the first thing that's been able to help. He's able to sit and focus. Do what is best for your DS mama. Don't worry about opinions from someone that has never had to deal with this.
djs3kids
by Member on Apr. 12, 2014 at 8:37 AM
Whatever choice you make is your decision but please becareful on what meds are given.......when I was growing up my best friends brother died from taking Ritalin(sp?)
leanntx
by on Apr. 12, 2014 at 9:41 AM
DS has ADHD. We tried medication for a few months, because dietary changes and behavioral counseling didn't help. The medication helped, but we didn't like the side effects. We weaned him off of the medication, and started giving him herbal supplements instead. He still has bad days occasionally, but overall, we're very happy with the results. That might be another option for you to consider if you haven't already.

Quoting Anonymous:

My kindergartner is being evaluated for ADHD on Thursday. He struggles greatly at school to be attentive and is extremely impulsive, to the point he has gotten hurt. Just last Friday he took off during recess and fell on some pavement in a roped off area and got a concussion. He cannot sit still, he always needs to be fidgeting or changing postitions. Academically he is showing improvements, but he needs an aide to help him stay on task and to follow instructions, he has an awful time paying attention, etc. He is such a love, very outgoing and happy, has a great time at school, but he struggles both at school and at home with following directions and impulsiveness, and unfortunately its hard on all of us, especially him.


Long story short is, I mentioned casually to my sister that he was going for the eval on Thursday, and her immediate reaction was, "YOU CANNOT GIVE HIM MEDS!!". She went on to say they are bad for kids, they dont help, and that it is sad that parents medicate their kids. She doesnt even have kids.


Wtf? I dont even know for sure if he does have ADHD yet (even though our doctor said she would be amazed if it was negative), and she's freaking out over giving him medications, without even asking what kind of a plan we might even have for him! DH and I have already discussed trying dietary changes and behavioral changes if we can help, and we are not opposed at all to giving him a medication that might help him thrive. The point is we dont want to hold him back by not helping him, kwim? And she all of a sudden is breathing down my neck about it being "bad"...


Grrrrr. Whats your take on ADHD meds? Did you decide to give them? Did you decide against them?


 


EDIT**** I just wanted to say thank you to all the moms here who had something helpful to say, whether they chose to medicate or not. Its not a decision we face lightly, and we want to be prepared for the eventuality of having to choose what to do.


To the people (few) who had nothing nice to say- well, take your rudeness elsewhere. I need constructive ideas and thoughts to decide how to help my child thrive. Criticizing my parenting when you are a complete inernet stranger does absolutely nothing and is not helpful at all.. (;


Also, a little info I forgot to include in my OP:


DS is seven, he turned 7 in December. He repeated preschool before moving up to prek and was not ready for kindergarten until this year. He has been on an IEP since his second year of preschool. He has received OT and has had a classroom aide since his IEP began and he attends summer sessions as well. He has always received evals that include his inability to attend (that means can not pay attention), impulsiveness, and inability to sit still when appropriate. Without the teachers he has had I dont even want to know where we would be, they have been amazing and have helped him/us tremendously, so this isnt a situation where he has teachers or parents who "just dont want to deal with him".


At this point, with proper evaluation of course, medication is on the table as a possibility. DS is impulsive to the point he has gotten hurt, he gets in trouble on the bus and it has become a safety issue. and we dont want to see him fall further and further behind- the grades will only get more and more challenging. Some people may think a kindergartner is too young for this, but with his age and the consideration of the fact that school will only get more and more challenging, we want to be proactive. We dont want to hold back on doing something that will only help DS be more of the amazing little boy he is.


Hope that all makes sense, sorry this got really long!!!


 


EDIT #2!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I am completely blown away with all the responses I have gotten about this! Thank you to everyone who has responded, whatever choice you have made or would make about how to treat your child for this. I know its a very personal decision and it is not one we are making lightly. I'm fortunate to have a great pediatrician for our son who is helping us down this road and his eval went very well, considering the fact that DS couldnt even bear to sit still while we were in the Ped's office! Our ped actually has ADD himself, which was a huge plus for our DH to hear. He is not quick to prescribe medication, all though in our case we are ahead of many of the steps he would usually suggest first (like, IEP or 504 plans at school, responsibility charts, etc, to help him through the day, etc etc). I just wanted to say thank you and I am very encouraged to hear how many of your children have truly thrived either because of their ADHD medication or that they have thrived without it as well. THANK YOU EVERYONE!!!!!!

Trieschman
by on Apr. 14, 2014 at 9:00 PM

I have heard that ADHD and ADD stems from a deficiency in magnezium and zinc if you want to go the natural route. I can research more info if necessary. 


Youc an also try a natural alternative using essential oils - one like Peace and Calming on his feet.

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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 14, 2014 at 9:09 PM

I'm 32 and was diagnosed with ADD as a child.  I hated taking my medicine.  I know that it works miracles for some kids but for me it was awful.  I hated feeling it kick in every time I took it.  As an adult I don't even do caffiene because I hate the way it makes me feel.

So if you do decide to medicate my biggest piece of advice would be to keep the lines of communication open with your son.  If one medicine doesn't work investigate other medicines or look into other strategies for coping with ADHD.

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