My sil is pissed because I'm letting her and her baby starve.
But it was the end of the month, I figured she just didnt plan ahead and budget properly, so I have her food, and a 2 tubs of formula.
Today she comes back wanting me to give her $200. I told her no.
Just this past month alone we've given her close to $500 for various bills and things she couldn't pay. And we can't afford to keep doing it.
She then asked if I could give her some formula for the baby. I asked her what happened to the two giant tubs of I gave her 4 days ago. She insisted she used it all already. There's no way that baby went through two tubs of formula in 4 days.
I told her she could have the sample cans I got. (There's 3 cans.).
She got mad and said that that wouldn't be enough.
So I told her that I can't do more than that. This is the time of year where dhs work load decreases, and so do his paychecks. We plan ahead and stock up on certain things in January and February. (Like non perishable foods, diapers, soaps, formula, toliet paper etc. and pay pills on advance with the tax refund. ) so that we have a stock of things for this time where we struggle a little. (Usually April and may are the two rough months, and the rest of the year is fine.).
Sil got pissed and said that we don't care about them at all, and that she can't believe I'm going to let them starve.
I told her that we just cant afford to give her more right now. the sample cans of formula would be enough to last a couple days, and she gets her food stamps on the 6th. So in two days she'll have money for food. I also told her she could eat with us.
But we can't afford to give her more money or another tub of formula. We have a toddler that needs to eat, and twin 2 month olds that need formula.
And while we do have $300 setting aside right now, we need that to fill my prescriptions (which insurance doesn't fully cover.), purchase my test strips, and new meter, (my old one crapped out on me and since the old one is only 5 months old, insurance won't cover a new one.).
After explaining to her why we couldn't give her more money and things she started freaking out. She said she's too stressed to deal with this and can't handle it. I told her if she needed a break then to leave the baby here for a little bit.
She then yelled at me and stomped off.
I just don't understand. Her money is obviously going somewhere, but she has nothing to show for it. I'm worried that maybe she has some type of addiction..
But she took off, and kenzie is here with me.
I just don't know what sil expects from us. How much money does she think we an afford to just hand over?
And if she DOESN'T have an addiction or a problem, the where the hell is her money going?