UPDATE : My 16 year old DD said the most hurtful thing she has ever said
We were fighting because I would not let her go with two of her friends for a overnight to a city were a concert was happening 100 miles away were no adults but one 20 year old was going to be. I told her I could not do that. Maybe if one of the moms was going I would let her. I cannot go because I am 8 1/2 months pregnant and am having a high risk pregnancy. Which i another reason she should not be going. She started screaming at me and told me. I don't even know why even asked you. your not my real mother. i have no emotional connection to you. I don't even love you. We are not even blood kin. I wish my mom had not died and you would not even be here. My heart sank. She usually is the sweetest girl I cannot believe she said that to me. I did not tell her dad. Her mom died of a aneurysm when she was 1 and me and her dad married when she was 3 1/2. I have raised her as mine since then. I have always felt like she is mine but I have never tried to take her mothers place. My heart is broken. I cant believe she feels that way.
ETA: WANTED TO MAKE IT CRYSTAL CLEAR: I would be okay if another adult was okay..she was be allowed to go if ther was another adult going.
Update: She came and apologized to me and brought me and her dinner from the Black eye pea to eat together and a cherry cheese cake. I didnt even ask her to do this. She just did it. She said she was sorry she said all that and started crying and said she loved me and she was just mad because all her friends were going and she did not want to be left out. I am about to call my sister and see if I pay her 100$ and get her a hotel room for that weekend if she doesnt have anything plan if she can go with her down there that weekend and chaparone. My DD doesnt know it yet because my sister may not be able to do it. She really is a good kid and I know she has just been frustrated with my health and her dad being gone a lot. I know she normally wouldnt have said this. I took her phone away and her laptop away and she is grounded for the week.