Final Update: ETA : My DH is angry because I am going to surrogate for my (poll)
Question: Am I right to end my marriage over this?
Total Votes: 1077
Brother and his boyfriend of 12 years. But he was okay with it when it was his Best friend and his wife. We did it for them 5 years ago. I am not backing down from this. I am doing this I love my brother and his partner and they deserve this child. They are a better couple then most straight couples I know My husband told me tonight that he loves me if I do this but that if I do this he is leaving me. I told him that he will have to leave. We have two kids that are are 15 and 17. They both are siding with me. Yes, they both know the situation and they both have input. Because it does affect them. Am I right to risk ending my marriage over this?
ETA: I wanted to make some stuff clear that i didnt. People keep asking about this stuff. It is my fault I wasnt more clear.
1.) He has known my brother was gay. He has been a "advocate of gay rights for years" This is why it came as such a shock.
2.) this is not about surrogacy, this is about a gay couple raising a child. he thinks they should be together if they want, but they should not raise a child. His words. I think there is more to it and its an excuse. But thats his reasoning.He told me his beliefs two weeks ago I assumed as one would he was okay with it since we talked about me doing this for my brother 4 years ago and he said nothing.
3.) I am just the oven, It is not my egg but it is my brothers sperm so it will be my genetic neice/nephew.
Last and Final Update:
My husband came home and we talked. He did admit he just not happy in the marriage and is looking for a way out. He said he wanted a divorce and that he would not stop teh surrogation and that he just wanted me to see that our marriaage wasnt working. I told him I wouldnt fight him and that we ould divorce. He said he wished my brother and me luck on the pregnancy and that he was moving in with his girlfriend that he has been seeing for 3 months behind my back. So anyway. There you go. Wasnt about the baby. Thanks for everyons support. Also, for those who think my brother and I are going to hell. I dont really care what you think but I agree you are entitled to your opinion, however outdated it is.