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What do you think of parents filming their crying kids and putting it on YouTube?

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Dad Slammed for Filming Daughter's 'Traumatizing' Trip Through Car Wash

by Nicole Fabian-Weber

car wash toddlerThere comes a point in everyone's life in which they find going through the car wash cool. But until that point, the car wash is flat-out terrifying. It's a lightless, noisy machine of a room where giant floppy, sudsy monsters try to get into your car so they can swallow you whole. Horrifying.

Most kids are freaked out the first time they go through the ol' car wash, despite the fact that mom or dad go with them, and one dad, Max Gibbons, happened to catch his adorable daughter's reaction on film.

No, she didn't like it. Yes, there were tears. And yes, her parents put it on YouTube.

Check it out:


Kind of adorable, kind of ... sad? When it comes to videos like these -- videos in which a child is sad, scared, upset, drugged up -- we're a nation divided on whether it's cute and funny, or cruel and exploitative. A lot of the comments on this video are from people who find the video sweet. But, because this is the Internet, there are some of the other variety, as well.

One commentor wrote:

Why would anyone find this acceptable, the fact that this is recorded and placed on youtube reflects the mind set of the parent, who clearly knew what suffering this would cause. Is this not just cruel or are viewers happy to see a child suffer like this?

While another said:

This is not cute, she is absolutely petrified, her body is clearly shaking with fear.

And yet another remarked:

This is sick....The child is utterly terrified of the car wash and you stupid STUPID people put her in the car and RECORD her terror...what the hell is wrong with you...

I reached out to Gibbons to see what he thought of the backlash, but haven't heard back.

Despite the fact that you can't win doing anything with your kids when you put it on the Internet (seriously, film your child eating a lollipop and some yahoo will threaten to call CPS on you), is this a little, well, not nice?

I don't doubt for a second that this little girl's mother and father are good parents and kind people, but I don't know. I don't think I ever could film my daughter in a situation where she's scared like this as opposed to comforting her. It's a different school of thought, and no, I'm by no means saying that I'm a better parent (maybe you are? maybe your kid will grow up to be tough while mine will be scared of everything?). But for me, personally, it doesn't feel right. And it's more about the filming than putting it up on YouTube. Something would just feel off to me about holding a camera in my daughter's face when she was afraid. (No, I didn't make her sit on Santa's lap.)

I would never write a nasty comment about this sweet little girl's parents on a blog or on YouTube, just because, as I said, this isn't something I would do. Because someone's parenting style isn't the same as mine, I'm fully aware it doesn't make them a bad parent. We're much more nuanced than that, and moreover, I think we all need to be more accepting of each other's styles (yes, including myself). Because what does make us crappy parents and bad examples for our kids is harshly judging someone every time they disagree with you.

What do you think of parents filming their crying kids and putting it on YouTube?

by on Apr. 11, 2014 at 9:53 AM
Replies (11-20):
Clishmaclaver
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 10:34 AM
I videotape tantrums and say I'm going to show their friends. Lol I wouldn't put it on YouTube though.
Aislin
by Platinum Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 10:36 AM
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She didn't even cry much. 

Quoting mommysangelface:

me too!!!!!!!

her body was not shaking in fear. lol

Quoting Aislin:

I expected the video to be much worse from the way it was described. The mother is clearly trying to comfort the little girl. In the end the little cutie is excited and laughing because "they did it." She hardly seemed traumatized. It seems like people are making a mountain out of a mole hill yet again.


mommysangelface
by Emerald Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 10:37 AM

i thought her reaction was typical.  i mean hell at the end she was "bye carwash"  lmao!!!

Quoting Aislin:

She didn't even cry much. 

Quoting mommysangelface:

me too!!!!!!!

her body was not shaking in fear. lol

Quoting Aislin:

I expected the video to be much worse from the way it was described. The mother is clearly trying to comfort the little girl. In the end the little cutie is excited and laughing because "they did it." She hardly seemed traumatized. It seems like people are making a mountain out of a mole hill yet again.


JoanahLee
by Gold Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 10:44 AM
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I think this one is cute.  Mom reached back and held her leg while she was scared, no one was laughing at her, both parents were reassuring her and letting her know she was safe and in the end she was super proud of herself for making it through the scary carwash.  Cute, nothing wrong with filming it.  I would not put it on youtube because I don't want my kids to have to deal with their friends (or bullies) being able to find embarrassing kid videos of them later on.   

The ones where the kid is terrified, no one is doing anything to help them through it and the person with the camera is laughing so hard the screen is shaking are just mean. 

m.garcia21
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 10:46 AM
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I think its mean to laugh at her while she is terrified, theres nothing cute about that they need to worry about comforting her not filming her to entertain ppl
owl0210
by Emerald Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 10:46 AM
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I think it's wrong.
Linda92silva
by Silver Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 10:52 AM
Different people have a different sense of humor. Just because one person doesn't find something funny doesn't mean another one won't. That's just life no ones opinion will change how others feel. Yet, I see nothing wrong with video taping it. I myself wouldn't of put it up on youtube though.
JackAttacks
by Angel on Apr. 11, 2014 at 10:54 AM

 that was really cute. she was barely scared! and she was thrilled about it by the end!

rachellaree20
by Rachel on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:16 AM

I don't know.  I've filmed my dd crying but wouldn't put it on the internet.  I just took a short video of her crying because when I'd show it to her when she'd cry, she'd stop crying and watch the video and get excited that she could see herself.  It's pretty cute :)  It's the next best thing if I'm somewhere and don't have a mirror around (she loves looking at herself in the mirror)

AnastasiaKorsh
by on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:24 AM
Lol, she doesn't look traumatized or like she was 'shaking in fear.'

It didn't even look like she was actually crying. She was doing that cry that kids do when they don't want to do something. Far ftom serious.
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