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What do you think of parents filming their crying kids and putting it on YouTube?

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Dad Slammed for Filming Daughter's 'Traumatizing' Trip Through Car Wash

by Nicole Fabian-Weber

car wash toddlerThere comes a point in everyone's life in which they find going through the car wash cool. But until that point, the car wash is flat-out terrifying. It's a lightless, noisy machine of a room where giant floppy, sudsy monsters try to get into your car so they can swallow you whole. Horrifying.

Most kids are freaked out the first time they go through the ol' car wash, despite the fact that mom or dad go with them, and one dad, Max Gibbons, happened to catch his adorable daughter's reaction on film.

No, she didn't like it. Yes, there were tears. And yes, her parents put it on YouTube.

Check it out:


Kind of adorable, kind of ... sad? When it comes to videos like these -- videos in which a child is sad, scared, upset, drugged up -- we're a nation divided on whether it's cute and funny, or cruel and exploitative. A lot of the comments on this video are from people who find the video sweet. But, because this is the Internet, there are some of the other variety, as well.

One commentor wrote:

Why would anyone find this acceptable, the fact that this is recorded and placed on youtube reflects the mind set of the parent, who clearly knew what suffering this would cause. Is this not just cruel or are viewers happy to see a child suffer like this?

While another said:

This is not cute, she is absolutely petrified, her body is clearly shaking with fear.

And yet another remarked:

This is sick....The child is utterly terrified of the car wash and you stupid STUPID people put her in the car and RECORD her terror...what the hell is wrong with you...

I reached out to Gibbons to see what he thought of the backlash, but haven't heard back.

Despite the fact that you can't win doing anything with your kids when you put it on the Internet (seriously, film your child eating a lollipop and some yahoo will threaten to call CPS on you), is this a little, well, not nice?

I don't doubt for a second that this little girl's mother and father are good parents and kind people, but I don't know. I don't think I ever could film my daughter in a situation where she's scared like this as opposed to comforting her. It's a different school of thought, and no, I'm by no means saying that I'm a better parent (maybe you are? maybe your kid will grow up to be tough while mine will be scared of everything?). But for me, personally, it doesn't feel right. And it's more about the filming than putting it up on YouTube. Something would just feel off to me about holding a camera in my daughter's face when she was afraid. (No, I didn't make her sit on Santa's lap.)

I would never write a nasty comment about this sweet little girl's parents on a blog or on YouTube, just because, as I said, this isn't something I would do. Because someone's parenting style isn't the same as mine, I'm fully aware it doesn't make them a bad parent. We're much more nuanced than that, and moreover, I think we all need to be more accepting of each other's styles (yes, including myself). Because what does make us crappy parents and bad examples for our kids is harshly judging someone every time they disagree with you.

What do you think of parents filming their crying kids and putting it on YouTube?

by on Apr. 11, 2014 at 9:53 AM
Replies (21-30):
Brandyns87
by Gold Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:25 AM

I'm guilty of taking pictures of my son throwing tantrums, and posting the pictures with an "lol" caption. I don't see the point of this being posted though. A silly tantrum is funny... a child so scared she's trembling... not so much. On another note, that little girl is adorable.

AnastasiaKorsh
by on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:25 AM
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....they were comforting her. Did you watch the video?

They weren't laughing at her either.


Quoting m.garcia21: I think its mean to laugh at her while she is terrified, theres nothing cute about that they need to worry about comforting her not filming her to entertain ppl
jenn_alm
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:29 AM
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They are idiots!!

m.garcia21
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:32 AM
No i didnt im in school the wifi is terrible so ill watch it when i get home . But the article just made it seem like they were just shooting her suffering without any comfortt. But i did read from pp that they were comforting her and that she was proud of herself because she made it thru and that is actually cute, but i didnt read it til after i wrote the comment so theres that

Quoting AnastasiaKorsh: ....they were comforting her. Did you watch the video?

They weren't laughing at her either.


Quoting m.garcia21: I think its mean to laugh at her while she is terrified, theres nothing cute about that they need to worry about comforting her not filming her to entertain ppl
Scarpetta71
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:41 AM
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I thought it was cute .. Mom was there touching and talking reassuring her the whole way. 

BmoreRavens
by Gold Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:42 AM


Quoting JDmommyJD:

 Exactly this.. mom was obviously trying to help her overcome er fear.

Quoting Aislin:

I expected the video to be much worse from the way it was described. The mother is clearly trying to comfort the little girl. In the end the little cutie is excited and laughing because "they did it." She hardly seemed traumatized. It seems like people are making a mountain out of a mole hill yet again.

 

I don't know how a parent can stand to video tape a scared, upset, and crying child? Especially, with the intention of posting it on Youtube? 

Parent's ought to have respect for their child's feelings, and their privacy.

Using the painful moments in a child's life for the "entertainment" of people who enjoy seeing kids scared, upset, and crying - and think it's funny - is not my idea of good parenting. 







MamaBear131716
by Silver Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:46 AM
My DS used to stop crying immediately when I played a certain song. I posted a video of it on Facebook. I also posted the video of him sort of drugged up after surgery. It was cute and funny! I wouldn't post anything on YouTube but that's just me.
Kazoo22
by Platinum Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:49 AM
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I do think it's a little messed up. They seem to know that it scares her, yet film it. It's one thing to try and help her get through it, but another to video her terrifying moment and use it to laugh at her. 

At the end I feel so sad for her. You can hear it in her voice "car wash all done!" She absolutely relieved that this nightmare for her is over. 

Personally I wouldn't be filming my daughter's terror, but just trying to help her through it. 

MamaBear131716
by Silver Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:52 AM
Okay now that I watched the video...are you kidding me? People are ridiculous! There was nothing wrong with the video. The parents were comforting her the whole time and she wasn't even that upset. Good lord people will bitch about anything.

And she is cute as a button!
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:54 AM

 Meh...it's not something I would have video taped if my daughter seemed scared but I won't bash the parents.  She wasn't traumatized.  She was fine. 

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