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What do you think of parents filming their crying kids and putting it on YouTube?

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Dad Slammed for Filming Daughter's 'Traumatizing' Trip Through Car Wash

by Nicole Fabian-Weber

car wash toddlerThere comes a point in everyone's life in which they find going through the car wash cool. But until that point, the car wash is flat-out terrifying. It's a lightless, noisy machine of a room where giant floppy, sudsy monsters try to get into your car so they can swallow you whole. Horrifying.

Most kids are freaked out the first time they go through the ol' car wash, despite the fact that mom or dad go with them, and one dad, Max Gibbons, happened to catch his adorable daughter's reaction on film.

No, she didn't like it. Yes, there were tears. And yes, her parents put it on YouTube.

Check it out:


Kind of adorable, kind of ... sad? When it comes to videos like these -- videos in which a child is sad, scared, upset, drugged up -- we're a nation divided on whether it's cute and funny, or cruel and exploitative. A lot of the comments on this video are from people who find the video sweet. But, because this is the Internet, there are some of the other variety, as well.

One commentor wrote:

Why would anyone find this acceptable, the fact that this is recorded and placed on youtube reflects the mind set of the parent, who clearly knew what suffering this would cause. Is this not just cruel or are viewers happy to see a child suffer like this?

While another said:

This is not cute, she is absolutely petrified, her body is clearly shaking with fear.

And yet another remarked:

This is sick....The child is utterly terrified of the car wash and you stupid STUPID people put her in the car and RECORD her terror...what the hell is wrong with you...

I reached out to Gibbons to see what he thought of the backlash, but haven't heard back.

Despite the fact that you can't win doing anything with your kids when you put it on the Internet (seriously, film your child eating a lollipop and some yahoo will threaten to call CPS on you), is this a little, well, not nice?

I don't doubt for a second that this little girl's mother and father are good parents and kind people, but I don't know. I don't think I ever could film my daughter in a situation where she's scared like this as opposed to comforting her. It's a different school of thought, and no, I'm by no means saying that I'm a better parent (maybe you are? maybe your kid will grow up to be tough while mine will be scared of everything?). But for me, personally, it doesn't feel right. And it's more about the filming than putting it up on YouTube. Something would just feel off to me about holding a camera in my daughter's face when she was afraid. (No, I didn't make her sit on Santa's lap.)

I would never write a nasty comment about this sweet little girl's parents on a blog or on YouTube, just because, as I said, this isn't something I would do. Because someone's parenting style isn't the same as mine, I'm fully aware it doesn't make them a bad parent. We're much more nuanced than that, and moreover, I think we all need to be more accepting of each other's styles (yes, including myself). Because what does make us crappy parents and bad examples for our kids is harshly judging someone every time they disagree with you.

What do you think of parents filming their crying kids and putting it on YouTube?

by on Apr. 11, 2014 at 9:53 AM
Replies (31-40):
MamaBear131716
by Silver Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:56 AM
That's so something my son would do!

Quoting jlbelknap35:

Lol there have been some tantrums I wish I video taped, they are so rediculous they are funny. Like last night we went to Dave and busters and my son got mad cause there were tickets coming out lol. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 11, 2014 at 11:59 AM

I work with children every day. I don't ever click on or those types of clips because the last thing I want to do in my off time is watch children crying and tantruming. 

AbelsMommy01
by on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:03 PM
I'm surprised no one is upset about car seat placement, knowing cafemoms. I thought the video was cute! It showed her transition from being scared of it to knowing its not that bad. I have a really funny video on my phone that's way worse than that! My son (14 months at the time) was scared of this gigantic black ant, and he was running away screaming his head off! Then my big kitty ran down and hunted it. Once it was dead the cat brought it to DS and presented it like the worlds best present. After like a full minute of my kid crying he looks at the dead ant and cracks up! It was sooooo funny!
littlepinkrose
by Silver Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:14 PM

It wasn't that bad at all.  You could see moms hand on the girl they let her use her blankie to cover her face and they talked to her the whole time.  At the end she was laughing.  My nephew was also terrified although after the first time and we let him use his blanket and cover up we never took him back.  Now if the girl was in hysterics and they took her blanket away and by the end she was all red and bawling still that would be awful this was clearly not that type of situation.

JDmommyJD
by the sauce is boss on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:14 PM
Im not even speaking on the you tube posting part of it, really. I don't see anything wrong with what happened in the video. The fact they recorded the video, to me, is no different than the countless other ridiculous things parents record, or take photos of. like naked bathtub photos, and Christmas in pajamas. I seriously doubt, when the child is older, they will look back at their two year old self and be humiliated.
With that being said, would i do it? No. But i don't even have a Facebook, and find it (fb) ridiculous as well..but that's knew, personally.


Quoting BmoreRavens:

Quoting JDmommyJD:

 Exactly this.. mom was obviously trying to help her overcome er fear.


Quoting Aislin:

I expected the video to be much worse from the way it was described. The mother is clearly trying to comfort the little girl. In the end the little cutie is excited and laughing because "they did it." She hardly seemed traumatized. It seems like people are making a mountain out of a mole hill yet again.


 

I don't know how a parent can stand to video tape a scared, upset, and crying child? Especially, with the intention of posting it on Youtube? 

Parent's ought to have respect for their child's feelings, and their privacy.

Using the painful moments in a child's life for the "entertainment" of people who enjoy seeing kids scared, upset, and crying - and think it's funny - is not my idea of good parenting. 

pinkfairy0206
by on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:16 PM
1 mom liked this
I wouldn't put any sort of videos on you tube. Nothing is sacred anymore. There is no more privacy.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:22 PM

It's not like the parents were teasing her or telling her to knock it off. One of the comments said why would they put her in the car and video tape her terror; what if this was the first time she'd been in the car wash. Did they know it was something that would scare her? I'm going to guess the answer is no. It was a set of parents wanting to capture the memory of their girls first experience with a car wash. Mom comforted her the whole time she was upset.  It wasn't a great experience oh well. I don't post videos of my kids (to many weirdos in the world) but I have plenty of videos with all the difference reactions kids have to new experiences.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:26 PM

That's about as silly as the tantrum my daughter threw because she wanted to go outside and I was saying she could LOL

Quoting jlbelknap35:

Lol there have been some tantrums I wish I video taped, they are so rediculous they are funny. Like last night we went to Dave and busters and my son got mad cause there were tickets coming out lol. 


Shelly126
by on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:31 PM
I think the parents are morons for filming it and putting it on youtube! What's the fkn point? So your kid was scared and then she wasn't? Big deal!
BmoreRavens
by Gold Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:49 PM


Quoting JDmommyJD: Im not even speaking on the you tube posting part of it, really. I don't see anything wrong with what happened in the video. The fact they recorded the video, to me, is no different than the countless other ridiculous things parents record, or take photos of. like naked bathtub photos, and Christmas in pajamas. I seriously doubt, when the child is older, they will look back at their two year old self and be humiliated. With that being said, would i do it? No. But i don't even have a Facebook, and find it (fb) ridiculous as well..but that's knew, personally.
There's a huge difference in happy, smiling, faces in Christmas pajamas - or a bubble bath - and the face and the feelings of a scared child who is crying, and upset.
A child does not have to be grown to feel humiliated or embarrassed. That can happen at very early age, and including the time that the video is recording.
What next - a video of a parent telling their child that their dog died? It wouldn't surprise me.
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