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What do you think of parents filming their crying kids and putting it on YouTube?

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Dad Slammed for Filming Daughter's 'Traumatizing' Trip Through Car Wash

by Nicole Fabian-Weber

car wash toddlerThere comes a point in everyone's life in which they find going through the car wash cool. But until that point, the car wash is flat-out terrifying. It's a lightless, noisy machine of a room where giant floppy, sudsy monsters try to get into your car so they can swallow you whole. Horrifying.

Most kids are freaked out the first time they go through the ol' car wash, despite the fact that mom or dad go with them, and one dad, Max Gibbons, happened to catch his adorable daughter's reaction on film.

No, she didn't like it. Yes, there were tears. And yes, her parents put it on YouTube.

Check it out:


Kind of adorable, kind of ... sad? When it comes to videos like these -- videos in which a child is sad, scared, upset, drugged up -- we're a nation divided on whether it's cute and funny, or cruel and exploitative. A lot of the comments on this video are from people who find the video sweet. But, because this is the Internet, there are some of the other variety, as well.

One commentor wrote:

Why would anyone find this acceptable, the fact that this is recorded and placed on youtube reflects the mind set of the parent, who clearly knew what suffering this would cause. Is this not just cruel or are viewers happy to see a child suffer like this?

While another said:

This is not cute, she is absolutely petrified, her body is clearly shaking with fear.

And yet another remarked:

This is sick....The child is utterly terrified of the car wash and you stupid STUPID people put her in the car and RECORD her terror...what the hell is wrong with you...

I reached out to Gibbons to see what he thought of the backlash, but haven't heard back.

Despite the fact that you can't win doing anything with your kids when you put it on the Internet (seriously, film your child eating a lollipop and some yahoo will threaten to call CPS on you), is this a little, well, not nice?

I don't doubt for a second that this little girl's mother and father are good parents and kind people, but I don't know. I don't think I ever could film my daughter in a situation where she's scared like this as opposed to comforting her. It's a different school of thought, and no, I'm by no means saying that I'm a better parent (maybe you are? maybe your kid will grow up to be tough while mine will be scared of everything?). But for me, personally, it doesn't feel right. And it's more about the filming than putting it up on YouTube. Something would just feel off to me about holding a camera in my daughter's face when she was afraid. (No, I didn't make her sit on Santa's lap.)

I would never write a nasty comment about this sweet little girl's parents on a blog or on YouTube, just because, as I said, this isn't something I would do. Because someone's parenting style isn't the same as mine, I'm fully aware it doesn't make them a bad parent. We're much more nuanced than that, and moreover, I think we all need to be more accepting of each other's styles (yes, including myself). Because what does make us crappy parents and bad examples for our kids is harshly judging someone every time they disagree with you.

What do you think of parents filming their crying kids and putting it on YouTube?

by on Apr. 11, 2014 at 9:53 AM
Replies (41-50):
happynewyorker
by Silver Member on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:52 PM
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Why do parents think it's cute to have a child cry when they are sitting on Santa Claus's lap?? 

Why do parents think it's cute to give babies lemons and upload to Youtube?? 

I think it's cruel.  My daughter didn't see Santa until she was 3. 

I would never do that to my kid. 

I don't get it.  Maybe they seek attention and figure that a crying child is all they can get on the attention.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:54 PM
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that's fucking sick...i had to turn it off...

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:55 PM

those parents should be charged with abuse, and forced to take parenting classes

quinnsmom715
by Donna on Apr. 11, 2014 at 12:59 PM
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i see that all the time.i used to watch americas funniest home videos and the were always showing parents scaring the bejesus out of their kid..and think it was funny.i dont think its funny when my son is scared.it breaks my heart..

TheSilence
by Tá mé an mó on Apr. 11, 2014 at 1:01 PM
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She's fine. Did anyone ever think that the parents were video taping her response to her first car wash so they weren't sure of her reaction?
I hardly think she is traumatized for life over this.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 11, 2014 at 1:02 PM

 lame.

TheSilence
by Tá mé an mó on Apr. 11, 2014 at 1:07 PM
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Wow, charged with abuse? People are so ridiculous and over react constantly! Why am I even surprised?
Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 11, 2014 at 1:10 PM

 Where's the Carseat Cop? Was that one approved? LOL

JDmommyJD
by the sauce is boss on Apr. 11, 2014 at 1:13 PM
The child seemed happy by video end. I don't think she was scarred.
Ftr, all the bath pics of my twins, when they were around 1, were bloody murder screaming pics. They're older, and not at all traumatized.

I think there is a big difference in recording someone freaking out over the car wash, and someone genuinely sad and heartbroken..crying over a loss.


Quoting BmoreRavens:

Quoting JDmommyJD: Im not even speaking on the you tube posting part of it, really. I don't see anything wrong with what happened in the video. The fact they recorded the video, to me, is no different than the countless other ridiculous things parents record, or take photos of. like naked bathtub photos, and Christmas in pajamas. I seriously doubt, when the child is older, they will look back at their two year old self and be humiliated.
With that being said, would i do it? No. But i don't even have a Facebook, and find it (fb) ridiculous as well..but that's knew, personally.
There's a huge difference in happy, smiling, faces in Christmas pajamas - or a bubble bath - and the face and the feelings of a scared child who is crying, and upset.
A child does not have to be grown to feel humiliated or embarrassed. That can happen at very early age, and including the time that the video is recording.
What next - a video of a parent telling their child that their dog died? It wouldn't surprise me.
JDmommyJD
by the sauce is boss on Apr. 11, 2014 at 1:15 PM
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Its abusive to go to a carwash, when your kids are with you?

Quoting Anonymous:

those parents should be charged with abuse, and forced to take parenting classes

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