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I'm having an abortion tomorrow ..UPDATE 3.5 months

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I know this is posted everyday.. But even though I'm confident with this choice I'm still scared. . I'm pretty alone in all this. . I'm going by myself. .I'm just ready to get it over with. It's been a tough few weeks. I've been so so sick in and out of the er bc I've been vomiting so much. Terrible. How long does it take for pregnancy symptoms to go away after an abortion? Crazzzzy.

Update:
It's been 2.5 weeks... Today was my last day of clinicals..I feel awesome..I still stand behind my choice and I'm still confident it was the best..I had a hard time during the first week.. But I made it through.. Never had to make myself so motivated but I did it..I have 2 more weeks of class then I'll graduate.. I'm so proud of myself.. Thank you every one for your support! !!


 3.5 months later

Its been 3.5 months since my abortion.. Its been a long road with many different emotions. The guy that had gotten me pregnant came back around and broke down crying about how we shouldnt have done this, and it really did make me doubt my decision. .. but it didnt take long for him to reassure me why I made the hard choice I had to make in the first place and decided that I did this so that I (as well as my kids) wouldnt be tied down with all his crazy baggage that would do nothing but keep me from providing the life I want for my two kids so I cut him out for good. While I know my choice was right I still have a hard time coping with things that remind me of my pregnancy... people posting baby bumps on facebook, baby clothes, babies theirselves... it makes me sad but I know it just wasnt the right time with the right person.  I have a therapist that I talk to about it, and that helps as well. It really was a life changing event, and while it may have been one of the darkest times of my life and sometimes I still struggle with it I am happy where I am mentally. I graduated from nursing school, taking my boards on Monday, waiting to hear back from a job offering 17 an hour in a GI clinic, thinking about how far I have come in just a few short months from such a dark time in my life is what gets me through.. no matter what I will always feel a sense of loss, but its about using that to become a better person. 

Im really open about my abortion, Im not sure why. I really dont have a problem sharing my story with anyon e really... I dont walk up to random strangers or anything, but a lot of my aquaintances know about it... Im not sure if thats healthy, or normal or whatever or why I even do it.. I think it helps me get it off my chest, I am not a very secretive person at all..I like people to know my story so they know why I am the way I am..I guess? Im not sure...  What do other Moms that have had aboritons feel about this?   Even if you havent had an abortion, how would you feel if you saw someone you hadnt seen in awhile, and a related topic came up and she told you about this? I dont know... I feel like I talk about it, but then after its over with I hit myself over the head because I know its such a sensitive subject..

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 11, 2014 at 10:43 PM
Replies (541-550):
Anonymous
by Anonymous 83 on Apr. 13, 2014 at 10:50 AM

goodluck....your never going to forget or be 100 percent happy with this decision.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 13, 2014 at 11:04 AM
I did. Ty for your support. . Honestly I'm feeling great. . I'm resting today before a long week.. But I feel fine emotionally. .I even manged to put on make up and go out to eat with a friend last night. No regrets.

Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Anonymous: Ty so much.

Quoting Anonymous: goes awatythat day but make sure you have someone to talk to it is an emotional process. I feel for you



I'm sorry the women on here have been overwhelmingly douches. if you already had your abortion I hope you are feeling well and have a friendly ear. I have been where you are and still been blessed to have two beautiful little girls that are loved and well taken care of. It was a difficult decision for me and know that it must be for you too. I find it disgusting that women on here can't support and care for other women in a hard time.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 13, 2014 at 11:04 AM
It's finished and I am 100% happy with my decision..ty though.

Quoting Anonymous:

goodluck....your never going to forget or be 100 percent happy with this decision.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 83 on Apr. 13, 2014 at 5:29 PM

Tell yourself that in 1 or 2 years



Quoting Anonymous: It's finished and I am 100% happy with my decision..ty though.
Quoting Anonymous:

goodluck....your never going to forget or be 100 percent happy with this decision.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 13, 2014 at 5:57 PM
I'm 110% sure I'll be okay. .. Really.

Quoting Anonymous:

Tell yourself that in 1 or 2 years

Quoting Anonymous: It's finished and I am 100% happy with my decision..ty though.

Quoting Anonymous:

goodluck....your never going to forget or be 100 percent happy with this decision.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 82 on Apr. 13, 2014 at 9:40 PM

I would probably stop coming back to this post now. People are going to be rude and unsupportive and you are going to have a lot of healing to do. You don't need the negative. That said  I am glad it went well. I hope things continue to get better for you from here on out. 

Quoting Anonymous: I'm 110% sure I'll be okay. .. Really.
Quoting Anonymous:

Tell yourself that in 1 or 2 years



Quoting Anonymous: It's finished and I am 100% happy with my decision..ty though.
Quoting Anonymous:

goodluck....your never going to forget or be 100 percent happy with this decision.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 3, 2014 at 1:04 AM

bump for update

AVSpecWife4
by Ruby Member on Aug. 3, 2014 at 1:07 AM
I've aborted more than once, I understand where you're coming from. I never had issues looking at baby stuff. I would usually think "glad I'm not pregnant!"

You can always pm me to talk though. I'm open about my choices.
Many hugs mama.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Aug. 3, 2014 at 1:11 AM


Quoting AVSpecWife4: I've aborted more than once, I understand where you're coming from. I never had issues looking at baby stuff. I would usually think "glad I'm not pregnant!" You can always pm me to talk though. I'm open about my choices. Many hugs mama.

TY. It just bothers me when I think how many weeks I am, or seeing people that are due around the time I would have been.. or thinking that Id be more than half way through..and know the gender and stuff like that.. thats what bothers me more so than seeing baby stuff.. My brothers gf is pregnant due a month before I would have been, and its hard hearing everyone so excited about it and not knowing my struggle.

AVSpecWife4
by Ruby Member on Aug. 3, 2014 at 1:23 AM
I'm sorry mama. I always advise women that when you make this choice, it's permanent. There's no going back.
I had no doubts and no regrets. I still feel that way even now. But not everyone can move on like I can. That's perfectly normal and ok.

If you need to grieve, that's ok too. You can still feel that you made the right choice, and grieve as well. Take your time to grieve and heal. You don't have to feel conflicted. For awhile, I had some emotional downs, but I reconciled with myself that my choices to abort were for the best, but I'll forever care about the souls that were given up. There's no one way to go about this and reconciling yourself with your decision. However, I will tell you, try not to dwell on the what ifs. It'll drive you crazy.


The lifers are going to be crawling all over this, but that's ok.


Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting AVSpecWife4: I've aborted more than once, I understand where you're coming from. I never had issues looking at baby stuff. I would usually think "glad I'm not pregnant!"

You can always pm me to talk though. I'm open about my choices.
Many hugs mama.


TY. It just bothers me when I think how many weeks I am, or seeing people that are due around the time I would have been.. or thinking that Id be more than half way through..and know the gender and stuff like that.. thats what bothers me more so than seeing baby stuff.. My brothers gf is pregnant due a month before I would have been, and its hard hearing everyone so excited about it and not knowing my struggle.

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