Annoyed with my daughter. Re: college graduation dinner
My daughter is graduating from college at the end of May. I'm so proud of her, but I'm a bit annoyed at her planning right now.
Her dad's parents are rich and offered to have a celebration. She picked dinner for the family and her best friends. I'm remarried and my ex and I get along pretty well, so it'll be joint. I have a 3 year old son and while she loves him, they've never lived together, so I don't think she gets what living with a small child is like.
She sent the email invite today. It's at a fancy steak and sushi restaurant. No kid's menu. Cheapest meal is $25 and absolutely nothing my son will eat. No problem, I figured. I called and asked what options they have for children. The guy talked to me like I was from outer space and said "...the menu...?".
I also don't know if I want my son around people drinking with dinner (my husband and I don't, my ex does and my daughter and her friends do) but I have no one to leave him with- we don't live near family and I don't have a sitter.
I'm annoyed she didn't call and have me help her plan this so we could have picked a more everyone friendly place. Would you say something to her to try to make it more inclusive? If not, what can I do? I don't think I can make my 3 year old sit quietly through a long meal with food he won't eat, and I don't want to embarrass her.