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I don't want ds's brother around.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Ds and his brother have only seen each other a handful of times in their lives and I didn't use to have a problem with it but brother's mom and I don't get along and I feel completely disrespected by her on multiple occasions and I don't want anything to do with her and she refuses to let her kid visit unless she's there too. She used to be OK with the father picking him up and bringing him over, but she won't even allow that now and I won't allow her in my house or around me.
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:13 PM
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wise.toes
by Silver Member on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:37 PM
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i wouldn't allow BM in my home either, and we haven't had any major issues. 

what is the visitation order? why does she have to be present? 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:37 PM
Wait, so the mom will only let him visit if she's there too?? I wouldn't be okay with that either. That's weird...

Quoting Anonymous: I'm not. It's quite simple. He can see the child all he wants but his mother will not be allowed in my home or around me in a private setting. I have nothing to do with the visiting between them, just allowing her in my home or around me.

Quoting Texor:

This is your husband's child? 

Why the hell are you involved in this at all?  This is between them.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:38 PM
They don't follow the courts suggested visitation schedule so their visits are at their discretion. There's no court order saying when and how long.

Quoting Bluerose1482:

So, your husband has court-ordered visitation, but bm says that he can't go to your house without her?  That makes zero sense to me.  

Quoting Anonymous: He does have visitation. This has nothing to do with him seeing the kid, just the kid's mother being around me.

Quoting Bluerose1482:

Is this your husband's child?  Why doesn't he have visitation?

thenameshailie
by Ruby Member on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:39 PM

So are you important or are the kids important? Suck it up and be nice.

nada2000
by Member on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:41 PM
That is sad but I totally get it
KekeLi938
by Bronze Member on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:43 PM
I suck it up for my children, since they love their step brother.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:43 PM
Visitation is at their discretion. As long as she allows so many hours she's not in contempt and the agreement doesn't say anything about her being there or not being there. They were still together when these arrangements were made and the father's work schedule was too up in the air for a strict schedule to be put into place.

Quoting wise.toes:

i wouldn't allow BM in my home either, and we haven't had any major issues. 

what is the visitation order? why does she have to be present? 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:44 PM

I don't blame you. Stick to your guns.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:44 PM

I don't know what is going on with the two of you but it sounds like she doesn't trust you with her son and I don't blame her for not wanting him there with you and not her.  I don't want my kids around a certain relative because she's bat shit crazy and has no common sense.  I'm there or she doesn't see them at all.  That is probably what is going on here.

 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 12, 2014 at 1:45 PM
Yes and she's been very disrespectful to me which is why I have issues with her being around me.

Quoting Anonymous: Wait, so the mom will only let him visit if she's there too?? I wouldn't be okay with that either. That's weird...

Quoting Anonymous: I'm not. It's quite simple. He can see the child all he wants but his mother will not be allowed in my home or around me in a private setting. I have nothing to do with the visiting between them, just allowing her in my home or around me.

Quoting Texor:

This is your husband's child? 

Why the hell are you involved in this at all?  This is between them.

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