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Is this really cold hearted?

Posted by on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:06 PM
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My mom called to tell me my dads former secretary died.

She was really broken up about it.

The woman was in her 90s.

I honestly had thought she died a few years ago.

My dads office closed 5 years ago and he started working from home, and this was the last time I saw her.

My parents went and saw her in a nursing home a few years ago I think...

She was a really sweet old lady an when I graduated high school gave me a check for $8K. Her only child died young (in his 30s I think) and her husband died not long after her son.

She continued to work into her 80s so she had a good deal of money.

Anyways my mom kinda expects me to drop everything and find a sitter to go to the funeral.

But I would have to find a sitter... And I hate funerals.

And really should I go to a funereal to a woman I haven't seen in over 5 years..

I feel terrible for not visiting her at all these past years, since she was so good to me in to past but I can't change that. And honestly I thought she had died....


Am I cold hearted?
by on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:06 PM
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Hannahluvsdogs
by Ruby Member on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:08 PM

A little, yes.

Danesmommy1
by Grammar Enthusiast on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:08 PM
If it was important to my mother, I'd make the effort to go.
thenameshailie
by Emerald Member on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:09 PM
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The woman gave you 8k. Get a sitter and go to her funeral geez.

bmw29
by spitfire_bobbie on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:09 PM
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You should definitely go. If someone handed me 8k I think I would have made it a point to keep in touch.
two4one
by Platinum Member on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:09 PM
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Yeah, a little bit. I hate funerals too, but sometimes you just have to go. This woman was good to you, show her a little respect.

december911
by Bronze Member on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:11 PM
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meh. I wouldn't go...then again, I am often told i am cold hearted or a bitch!

Ms.Pteranodon
by Platinum Member on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:13 PM
I told her I would try, but she is my normal sitter and my husban most likely wont be able to take off work to watch the kids. Not to mention it is 2 1/2 hours away in the middle of a school week.

So I am not sure if I can make it there for the funeral and back to pick up my oldest from school

Quoting Danesmommy1: If it was important to my mother, I'd make the effort to go.
norwgnwood
by Platinum Member on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:14 PM
No.I don't go to funerals.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:15 PM
Yeah.. it kind of makes you look like an asshole.
cali_gurl
by Gold Member on Apr. 13, 2014 at 7:16 PM

If she was good to you I would find a sitter and honor her by being at her funeral. Nobody likes funerals but we go out of respect.

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