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Is it okay to throw a housewarming party under these circumstances?

Posted by on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:38 AM
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Question: Please read backstory. Under these circumstances, is it acceptable to throw a housewarming party?

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No!

My opinion is complicated,I'll explain below


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A brief back story:

We just moved back into a house we bought almost 6 years ago. A year after we bought it my husband's job transferred him and we moved around for them for 4 1/2 years. We decided it was timeto come back and asked our tenants to leave.

They left us an enormous mess. We just the upstairs of the house liveable after 3 weeks of work and we hhaven't even touched the mess they left in the yard (seriously, there's a lot of junk out there)

All together we have spent about $2000 and all our savings trying to get our place put back together. We have also had to leave most of our stuff in the moves. We have most of the essentials, but need lots more stuff to make our house a home again. Honestly, though, I kind of just want my house to feel more like its mine, and having family and friends get together seems like a good way to do that. Gifts would be very much appreciated but not required.

We have never had a housewarming party before. Under these circumstances, would it be okay to throw a housewarming party?

by on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:38 AM
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mich2.0
by on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:41 AM
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Why don't you go after the tenants for repair costs? 

I got nothing. I'm the queen of tacky when it comes to parties. lol

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:44 AM
Of course you can have a party but I wouldn't call it a housewarming party.
AtiFreeFalls
by Bronze Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:47 AM

For two reasons.  

1.  Reasonably or not, I'm afraid making them pay will result in retribution.  I forced them to let me do a walkthrough because they were moving out without paying rent and they got really weird about it, so I brought a police escort.  They got SUPER pissed, punched a wall, wouldn't talk to me, cussed out the cop...

2.  It would take years to recoup the cost in small claims court.  They would have 6 years to pay, and I'm not sure getting paid 6 years from now is going to do us any good. 

Quoting mich2.0:

Why don't you go after the tenants for repair costs? 

I got nothing. I'm the queen of tacky when it comes to parties. lol


JulyBabies
by Gold Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:51 AM

I wouldn't call it a housewarming party. I would casually invite people over for dinner, if your goal is to just make it more "homey" with friends and family around. When you send out invitations and call it a "housewarming" to me, it would come off more like a request for gifts. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:52 AM
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I would not be worried about having a house warming party.  I would be taking the previous tenants to court to recoup the money that you had to put back into the house to get it livable again.  There is a difference between normal wear and tear versus damage done due to not caring. 


my4kids274
by Ruby Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:54 AM
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I would still take them to court.  Even if it took years to get the money back. 

Quoting AtiFreeFalls:

For two reasons.  1.  Reasonably or not, I'm afraid making them pay will result in retribution.  I forced them to let me do a walkthrough because they were moving out without paying rent and they got really weird about it, so I brought a police escort.  They got SUPER pissed, punched a wall, wouldn't talk to me, cussed out the cop...2.  It would take years to recoup the cost in small claims court.  They would have 6 years to pay, and I'm not sure getting paid 6 years from now is going to do us any good. 

Quoting mich2.0:

Why don't you go after the tenants for repair costs? 

I got nothing. I'm the queen of tacky when it comes to parties. lol


danandsamsmom
by Silver Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:54 AM

Why would they have six years to pay?

Quoting AtiFreeFalls:

For two reasons.  1.  Reasonably or not, I'm afraid making them pay will result in retribution.  I forced them to let me do a walkthrough because they were moving out without paying rent and they got really weird about it, so I brought a police escort.  They got SUPER pissed, punched a wall, wouldn't talk to me, cussed out the cop...2.  It would take years to recoup the cost in small claims court.  They would have 6 years to pay, and I'm not sure getting paid 6 years from now is going to do us any good. 

Quoting mich2.0:

Why don't you go after the tenants for repair costs? 

I got nothing. I'm the queen of tacky when it comes to parties. lol


TableforSeven
by Ruby Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:54 AM

You can throw a party.....but I wouldn't call it a housewarming party.  Except for first time owners just moving in, housewarming parties are improper.

Gorilla_Mama
by Gold Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:55 AM

I wouldn't call it a housewarming party but there's no reason you can't invite a bunch of people over and have a dinner party.

AtiFreeFalls
by Bronze Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 10:57 AM

Good point.  Although... I kind of wouldn't mind gifts lol.  I know that's tacky, I'm just being honest.  We're broke because we've had to do things like replace floors and plumbing and repair holes in walls.  We lived with my mom for a month and a half because this place was LITERALLY unlivable, and there is still a mountain of stuff to do, like have wiring checked because they added unapproved outlets and lighting in the basement.  

We're making do with minimal furniture, dishes, towels, washcloths... we're doing laundry at my mom's house because they stole our washer hookups and broke the dryer AND cut down our clothes line.  Actually BOTH dryers, because we had two.  They ruined expensive window coverings and never replaced them and my living room is nearly all window. We have no privacy because of it.

As you can see, we could use some help. 

Quoting JulyBabies:

I wouldn't call it a housewarming party. I would casually invite people over for dinner, if your goal is to just make it more "homey" with friends and family around. When you send out invitations and call it a "housewarming" to me, it would come off more like a request for gifts. 


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