Should I say something to sister-in-law. Today my mom calls to tell me that she was upset. When I asked why she proceeded to tell me about the conversation she had with my brother over the phone. Mom called my brother this morning to ask him if he was comming to easter dinner this year on Sunday. He proceeded to tell her that he didn't have his kids for easter so more than likely not. She asked him what having his kids had to do with comming to easter dinner. He then tried saying that since him and his wife didn't have the kids for easter they planned dinner just the two of them. Mom said that was fine but told him that it upsets her because she hasn't heard from him in 4 1/2 weeks. No phone call, hasn't come by the house nor texted. She was hoping he'd at least show up for easter but now isn't. She procedded to say that she hasn't seen him since thanksgiving. That the only time he calls her is when he wants her to watch the kids.
He got pissed off at mom and told her that he's just been busy working alot, his wife is working to and going to night school and visitation with the kids every other weekend. That if he had time to come by or call he would but he's just been to busy and she needs to understand. Her repsonse and in my opinon a good one was that if you've been so busy why have I seen post on facebook about you and your wife going out to dinner last week, going bowling afterwards and the week before that going out with your friends for drinks and shooting pool. His response before he hung up on her was that he's allowed to have a life and doesn't have to answer to her about everything he does.
Well about 15 minutes after he hung up on her she got a texted from his wife that read, "I am sorry you feel like your not getting enough attention from Bobby and I but we are busy. I know that sounds like an excuse but it's the truth. between working, going to night school and visitation with the kids it's just hectic. I'm sorry if were not like Amy and Wayne (dh and I) who live two minutes away and have all the free time in the world to be up your a**. Must be nice to be able to stay home and doing whatever you want all the time, but unfortunately that's not the case for us. If you want to get pissy because you think we're making excuses go ahead but I won't be around to care."
after I read that (she forwarded me the text) I was and am pissed. She's trying to say that me being a stay at home mom makes me lazy and I sit around all day and do whatever I want. That my mom isn't used to haviing kids that actually work. Excuse me but I am a full time mom to three boys, I run a business from home with my dh and I manage a household of 6. My dh bust his butt being the foremen for our remodeling company while I do all the book keeping, advertising, scheduling, ect.
My sister-in-law is a part time parent who sees her and my bother's kids every other weekend that's it. She works 5 days a week as a property manager for a small apartment complexe and just recently went back to school 3 weeks ago to get her real estate license. my brother works 5 days a week as a feild service tech for samsunge electronics.
Should I say something to sister-in-law? if so how should I approach it?