Am I being a paranoid Step-mum to my 12 year old step-daughter?
Hello everybody, I'm new here, so, if I'm doing this wrong please tell me so.
ok, I guess, I better start with my dilema. I'm a 42 year old woman and I live with my partner of 3 years, he has a 12 year old daughter who I will call Bobo. Bobo has set days where she stays with her dad and her mum, last saturday she went to her mum's as arranged but before she went away I reminded her that I was off on monday, yesterday morning I mentioned to Bobo that it was going to be me who was going to look after her instead of her gran (as she usually does) on monday, until her mum arrives to pick her up, I asked her if she wanted to do some baking with me on monday at some point and she agreed, nothing else was said on the matter. bobo then went to her mum's as arranged, but she was meant to be back yesterday evening as arranged, everything was fine until my partner told me yesterday at lunch time that bobo wasn't coming to stay over (on sunday as arranged) becuase her mum said that she would just keep her with her since she was going back to her tonight anyway (monday) plus because its the easter holidays. My inmediate reaction was, why? does bobo doesn't want to spend time alone with me? could that be a posibility? I asked my partner, but he said that I was being paranoid, that bobo would never hurt me, that maybe her mum genuiely thought it was for the best and that maybe bobo didn't want to upset her mum. Today bobo popped in to get her football trainers that she left behind but she never even mentioned our plan, it was like it was never mentioned! and, I'm feeling a little hurt. Am I being to sensitive? please help.