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Do you think this dad deserves to be charged with murder for leaving his baby in the car while he went to work?

Posted by on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:09 AM
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Baby Dies After Being Left in Car While Dad Goes to Work

by Lisa Fogarty

A 9-month-old baby died after his father says he accidentally forgot to drop him off at the babysitter's in the morning and instead left him in the car for hours while he went to work. The incident, which is one of so many similar stories it's becoming difficult to keep track of them all, took place on Wednesday in San Jose, California, where temperatures soared to 81 degrees.

The father, who works for a vending machine company from 9 a.m. until 6 p.m., was supposed to drop his baby off at his sister-in-law's house. He says there was a "misunderstanding" and he forgot to do so. When he returned to his vehicle after work, he was reportedly inconsolable after discovering his baby was unconscious from the heat and that he was responsible. The child was declared dead shortly after paramedics arrived on the scene.

I don't know about you, but it's really easy for me to hear a story like this and think: Lock him up -- he was an irresponsible parent. But in this case, dad didn't leave his baby in a car so he could smoke pot with a friend or have sex -- yep, both those things have happened. It sounds instead like he truly, honestly made a terrible mistake and that he is losing his mind over it.

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Now, you might be thinking, how could this happen? How could people pass this man's car parked on the street and not see a baby locked inside alone? For one thing, the car had tinted windows. Another: since the baby was so young, he was sitting in a rear-facing car seat and it's more difficult to spot a child strapped into one. It sounds like this was a horrific accident that had a nightmare ending because of other circumstances.

The father has not been charged by police -- yet. This is the first baby death of its kind reported this year. Let's hope it's also the last.

Do you think this dad deserves to be charged with murder for leaving his baby in the car while he went to work?

by on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:09 AM
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amandajoy21
by Bronze Member on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:20 AM
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I think murder is too harsh maybe manslaughter or child neglect. I don't understand how a healthy unimpaired parent forgets about their child in their car. I am all sorts of busy and don't normally take my son with me in the morning and when I had him I was more aware he was there not less. Maybe if the consequences were much more strict parents could be reminded to know where their children are at all times especially when they are babies.

When I was active duty we were told to put a stuffed animal in the car seat and then move it to the front so you would know your child was in the car or put your purse in the back. So you can remember our purse but not your child? So stupid.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:21 AM
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Yes how dumb can you be?
Mrs.Kubalabuku
by Ruby Member on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:22 AM
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It's going to be a long year if this is starting already.

It's hard to say without knowing what this "misunderstanding" was.  Did HE put the baby back there?  Or did Mom?  I could see him not knowing if Mom had put the baby back there while he was getting ready still or something, but if he went through putting baby there what was the misunderstanding?

Toonkasmommy
by Platinum Member on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:24 AM
I can't imagine forgetting that my daughteris in the car. Not murder but child abuse and neglect for sure. He should do some time.
PinkButterfly66
by Emerald Member on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:34 AM
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No he shouldn't be charged.  It was unintentional and a horrible mistake.   Cases like this are really, really heartbreaking.  I wish that carseats came with an automatic alarm alerting the driver that the baby or child is still in the carseat.  

krusesbaby
by Platinum Member on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:46 AM
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Its starting already?! Geez people! Look in your cars! If i see a carsear in a car i immediatly look to see of rhere is a kid in it. Ya its nosey but id break a window in a heartbeat.
Devious333
by Ruby Member on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:47 AM
He should serve time.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:50 AM
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I would say child endangerment. I think probation and psychiatric treatment would be better.
3JuJu3
by Platinum Member on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:52 AM

Maybe manslaughter, but murder would imply intent. 

TiffanyRose06
by Queso<3 on Apr. 18, 2014 at 11:52 AM
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I agree

Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

It's going to be a long year if this is starting already.

It's
hard to say without knowing what this "misunderstanding" was.  Did HE
put the baby back there?  Or did Mom?  I could see him not knowing if
Mom had put the baby back there while he was getting ready still or
something, but if he went through putting baby there what was the
misunderstanding?

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