The quick backstory - my brother never wants anything to do with anyone in our family. He comes around only when he wants something and the kids are no longer in our lives since they no longer need "free babysitting" since they can watch themselves.
My brother & his family went out of town to spend the holiday with the other set of grandparents. They do this every Easter which is fine. The FIL had a sudden illness and wound up in the ICU. My brother comes back with the kids and my mother immediately invites him to dinner. Understandable. The problem? I had already made arrangments to make dinner and bring it to their house (it's tough for them to spend the day out and I didn't want to spend all day there since I have kids) and eat at 12 pm. She makes arrangements for them to come at 2pm. She says she has a ham to make for them. I said fine, I'll eat at my house. My dad is furious. He says he needed my leftovers to feed them? WTHeck? I made lasagna for 6, not 10 people! What leftovers? I sent over a salad, sweet potato cassarole & peas. They didn't even bother to say thanks. AND, they're all mad at me!
I don't get it. Were we supposed to go over, eat & quickly leave to make room for them? They have a round table that seats 4. The kids would sit at the counter.
We went over for dessert after dinner so the kids could see eachother and my dad wouldn't even acknowledge me.