My dh and I have been married for 2 years now. We have a 3 yo dd. He was married before and has two older children that he doesn't see. He recently reunited with all his college buddies so now we hang out with their families all the time. Our kids are all around the same ages so it works out almost perfectly.
Dh was married to his college sweetheart. His friends were and still are her friends too. She has never stopped hanging out with the group. Now that we hang out with them too, it's incredibly uncomfortable when they talk about "the good old days" and things they used to do together. Or even worse, the way they gush over her, her dh, and the kids. It drives me absolutely crazy.
I feel so out of the loop. The other wives, I feel like, look down on me because I wasn't part of their clique and that Dh only married me because I got pregnant (do the math). Dh also hasn't always been so saintly - he doesn't have a valid excuse for not seeing his first kids or for leaving his ex wife. He was straight up kind of shady to his buddies for a long time as well. The wives play their part to support their hubbies and their boys are just boys; it was like nothing ever happened.
How can I get past this little bump in the road? What if the 1st wife is ever at a party? Ahhhhhgghghghgghh!!!!