We were over at my aunt's house earlier today. She gets migraines. I was putting the babies down for a nap and my six year old was downstairs with my aunt and my grandmother, who was visiting. A woman who lives down the road was over dropping something off. She also has a six year old son. My son had just gotten out of school so he was a little wound up, he was running around being noisy. My aunt called him over and said "Abel, you know that I don't allow running in the house, please walk and do not yell."
He said okay and sat down to wait for me to come down since I had the book her was reading in my bag. I came downstairs and the woman said "just so you know, she's bossing your kid around." I asked what happened, she told me, and I said "well he better have listened" and my son said "I did" and I gave him his book. She said "I just thought you should know, I would never let someone else talk to my kid like that, that's my job. Besides, he's six, she can't honestly expect him to not run and be noisy, he's a kid." I told her I didn't care if she told him what to do if he was misbehaving, and I don't. I think it takes a village to raise a child. If someone asks my child to knock it off, they are entirely expected to knock it off. They are not too good to be spoken to face to face, they don't need me as an in between.