My younger daughter is a single Mom and my older daughter won't help her out..
My younger dd has always been more down to earth. She's had bad luck with guys. Her son is 3 and her and his father recently split after he went to jail. My younger dd is devastated. My older dd knows her nephew, but only through me really, since she and younger dd don't talk- her ex was rude to my older dd, and once playfully grabbed her butt as a joke. Older dd was furious at him, and hasn't spoken to younger dd since she didn't apologize for him.
The problem? My younger dd lost her car in the legal troubles, so she had to move into a public transit accessible house, and transfer to a hospital closer to it (she's a nurse). The problem? She works nights very often, making it hard to find childcare period, and she's in a middle area where she can't really afford childcare but doesn't get help. She called my older dd to ask if he can sleep over two nights a week while she works, since I'm disabled and can't help and her ex doesn't have parents close by. Her response? She laughed, said "you must be joking" and hung up.
When I called back she said "mom, even if I was ever going to do a favor for her, I'm not having a kid over twice a week. There's a reason I don't have them". I tried to convince her more but she wasn't budging and told me to mind my own business, she'd already said no.
I'm just devastated. Devastated my girls hate each other, devastated my daughter is in this position and so scared and confused about what my dd can do.