Update 2 (ETA) tonight, I am going to confess to my husband
that I purposely trapped him.
We have been married 8 years and love each other very much. We met 9 years ago and started having sex one month after dating. I moved in after dating for 4 months, and shortly afterwards, I began purposely trying to get pregnant. we had always use condoms, until one day I told him he no longer needed to because I had gotten on Birth Conrol. We had talks of having children before, but he would tell me he didnt want kids until he was 30 (at that time he was 26 and I was 20). Well, I knew I was ready and I knew he was the one, so I lied about the BC so that he would stop using condoms. I got pregnant 2 months later.
Because I was pregnant, we agreed to get marry, and did so at the courthouse when dd was 3 weeks old.
Fast forward 8 years, and we are happily married with 3 children! He has never known the truth, and I plan on telling him tonight
Update: We are on our way to drop kids off at my sisters, then headed to dinner. I honestly had not prepared myself for the possible back lash, until reading your comments. Despite this, I've decided that I need to do this. If he would have never married me had I not gotten pregnant, I want to know. If he never planned on me having his children had this not happened, I want to know. Not to mention, I do feel guilty and I believe he needs to know the truth. I was so sure of myself until I made this post. Now I don t know how I feel...besides petrified
Update 2: we went to dinner last night and had a great time. Someone on here told me to feel him out first, so I joked about what our DD was meant to be here because God knew that we belonged together? He agreed that all things happen for a reason, so I took that as my cue to tel him the truth.
He laughed about it and wasn't upset at all. He looked really confused, but we just joked and finished our dinner. I felt a huge burden off of my shoulders and so happy he has a forgiving heart!
Until We got in the car....
He just got silent. I tried speaking to him and he wouldn't even look at me. I tried asking him what was wrong and he told me "it's not like I care how he feels". We got the kids, went home, and while I was taking a shower he left. His mother called and told me he was there and wanted to know why and I couldn't bring myself to tell her that I am a despicable human. I texted him all night and he did not respond, but I know it's because his phone is off.
I may delete this post very soon. I don't know if I can emotionally keep you all updated I'm sorry
ETA: he just called. His phone was dead. He is on his way home to get ready for work. I asked him if he was leaving me and he said no. I asked him if we could talk about this, and he said no. I asked him to please tell me what he wants me to do, and he told me to just leave him alone right now.