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BM wants my admission tickets...

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Question: how should the tickets be handled? please read the whole post before voting because it explains where these tickets came from and that BM might just waste them if she gets her hands on them!

Options:

us keep all of them and continue letting the kids take friends when the stepkids can't go

give bm 4 of them, even though we need 6 when we don't have the stepkids

only give bm 2 of them, covering the stepkids


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I want to make it crystal clear from the start, BM does NOT allow even one minute more than the court order allows.  DH has his kids every other weekend from Friday 4pm to Sunday 4pm.  Wednesday 4pm-8pm.  Holidays are set in the court order with specific times.  He gets two weeks in the summer, the same two weeks every single year.  He can only take the out of state during his two weeks in the summer.   

BM does not allow him to call and talk to them because it isn't in the court order and the judge said that was a "petty request on DH's part" so he didn't order the phone calls.  

He pays his child support faithfully, never missed a payment and pays all other expenses according to the court order.

Now that this is clear that BM only allows in what is in the court order, I am SICK of being told I shouldn't do things with my kids when the stepkids aren't here.  My sister in law works for a promotions company.  She scores free tickets to things quite often.  I can't control the dates that they fall on.  They are usually only valid a certain weekend.  She makes sure that I have enough to take the stepkids, every single time, but BM refuses to allow us to take them on *her* weekend, yet screams and rants and raves when we do anything without the stepkids.  She has found out that we have been using the tickets and going without the stepkids.    

We have asked each and every time we got tickets if she would allow us an extra weekend or to switch weekends and each time she has cussed DH out reminding him that he has a set weekend and to stop making plans for HER kids on HER weekend.  I guess she thought if she was saying no, we weren't using the tickets at all.  

Now that she has found out, she has called DH 10 times today (no exaggeration) to scream at him for not taking HER children.  If the tickets are only valid on certain dates, they're only valid on certain dates and we CANNOT change that.  So she is now demanding that every time MY sister in law (married to MY brother!) gives me tickets to something, we need to give her half (4) of them so she can take the stepkids if it falls on her weekend.  NO.  I get 8 tickets.  We need 6 just for the people that live here.  When the stepkids can't go, I let my older two kids take a friend each.  

DH is now wondering if we should at least let her have the two tickets since they were given to us for them.  I say no, my sister in law gives me tickets.  They're mine to use as I see fit and they are NOT BM's to demand.  And her giving me 8 tickets is NOT just because that is how many we need, she has always given me 6-10 tickets to take friends before I ever got married or had kids.  

What do you all think?  Oh, and I am going to add that most likely BM would NOT take the stepkids, especially when it is for things like Monster Trucks, MotoCross, races, etc.  Those are "redneck" and beneath her (she makes fun of us on facebook when she knows we have taken the kids to those things) so those tickets would go to waste.  She hates the waterpark (we get tickets there every month or two) so she probably wouldn't use those either.  The only ones she would use are maybe concert tickets. 

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:45 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:53 PM
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Wow. This is Crazy. Can't even believe she would think she is entitled to them. I have no advice other than you don't owe her crap which I suspect you already know. Good luck
Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:54 PM

I wouldn't give her any tickets.

Momniscient
by Ruby Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:54 PM
1 mom liked this
You need a parenting coordinator.
ElleLuvsOrchids
by on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:54 PM
1 mom liked this

I wouldn't give them to BM.  I agree that they are your tickets from your SIL and for you to use as you see fit.  Obviously, you take the stepkids when they are there and that is enough.

babie113
by Ruby Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:54 PM
Keep the tickets .shes being difficult and mooching .she could solve it all by changing weekends .
lovemysnugbugs
by Gold Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:54 PM
I'd keep on doing what you're doing. If she wanted the kids to go she could let them go with you or she could get tickets herself.
bcauseimthemom
by Ruby Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:55 PM
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I would tell my husband to kick rocks. If BM wants to take the kids, let her pay and take them herself. It is not up to you to supply BM with tickets and she is delusional if she thinks you are going to stay home and waste tickets because she thinks you shouldn't be doing things with your kids.  Crazy woman. I would tell my DH to suck an egg and you were not giving his ex anything...

Cmgmqmmom
by Ruby Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:56 PM
1 mom liked this
Continue to offer to take the kids, but do not give her the tickets.
invisibleme
by Platinum Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:56 PM
1 mom liked this
I'd never give in to a bm that acts like that.
lovelife350
by Platinum Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:57 PM
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keep all of them, she is just bitter and not going to use any of them ,  if you ask everytime and she says no then she cant be butt hurt that they can't go, its her fault

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