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BM wants my admission tickets...

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

 

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Question: how should the tickets be handled? please read the whole post before voting because it explains where these tickets came from and that BM might just waste them if she gets her hands on them!

Options:

us keep all of them and continue letting the kids take friends when the stepkids can't go

give bm 4 of them, even though we need 6 when we don't have the stepkids

only give bm 2 of them, covering the stepkids


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I want to make it crystal clear from the start, BM does NOT allow even one minute more than the court order allows.  DH has his kids every other weekend from Friday 4pm to Sunday 4pm.  Wednesday 4pm-8pm.  Holidays are set in the court order with specific times.  He gets two weeks in the summer, the same two weeks every single year.  He can only take the out of state during his two weeks in the summer.   

BM does not allow him to call and talk to them because it isn't in the court order and the judge said that was a "petty request on DH's part" so he didn't order the phone calls.  

He pays his child support faithfully, never missed a payment and pays all other expenses according to the court order.

Now that this is clear that BM only allows in what is in the court order, I am SICK of being told I shouldn't do things with my kids when the stepkids aren't here.  My sister in law works for a promotions company.  She scores free tickets to things quite often.  I can't control the dates that they fall on.  They are usually only valid a certain weekend.  She makes sure that I have enough to take the stepkids, every single time, but BM refuses to allow us to take them on *her* weekend, yet screams and rants and raves when we do anything without the stepkids.  She has found out that we have been using the tickets and going without the stepkids.    

We have asked each and every time we got tickets if she would allow us an extra weekend or to switch weekends and each time she has cussed DH out reminding him that he has a set weekend and to stop making plans for HER kids on HER weekend.  I guess she thought if she was saying no, we weren't using the tickets at all.  

Now that she has found out, she has called DH 10 times today (no exaggeration) to scream at him for not taking HER children.  If the tickets are only valid on certain dates, they're only valid on certain dates and we CANNOT change that.  So she is now demanding that every time MY sister in law (married to MY brother!) gives me tickets to something, we need to give her half (4) of them so she can take the stepkids if it falls on her weekend.  NO.  I get 8 tickets.  We need 6 just for the people that live here.  When the stepkids can't go, I let my older two kids take a friend each.  

DH is now wondering if we should at least let her have the two tickets since they were given to us for them.  I say no, my sister in law gives me tickets.  They're mine to use as I see fit and they are NOT BM's to demand.  And her giving me 8 tickets is NOT just because that is how many we need, she has always given me 6-10 tickets to take friends before I ever got married or had kids.  

What do you all think?  Oh, and I am going to add that most likely BM would NOT take the stepkids, especially when it is for things like Monster Trucks, MotoCross, races, etc.  Those are "redneck" and beneath her (she makes fun of us on facebook when she knows we have taken the kids to those things) so those tickets would go to waste.  She hates the waterpark (we get tickets there every month or two) so she probably wouldn't use those either.  The only ones she would use are maybe concert tickets. 

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:45 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:57 PM
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Um I wouldn't give that  b**** anything. Poor kids though, what a piece of work their BM is. You're under NO obligation to give her any of the tickets at all. Keep doing wht you've been doing.

Shadowed_Star
by Neko‚̧Wolf on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:57 PM
1 mom liked this

you really need to take this crazy bitch back to court...

omyheart83
by Silver Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:59 PM

Obviously you should keep them all and do as you please with them. What a bitch! Glad I don't have anything like that to deal with, good luck. lol

littlemoments99
by Gold Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 5:59 PM
1 mom liked this

Keep them! They are your tickets from your family. Not hers. She needs to grow up! 

Gmgej
by Bronze Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 6:00 PM
3 moms liked this

I think the BM is nuts. I would tape her screaming and take her back to court, showing how irrational she is. Shame on her for doing this to the kids.

MamaK88
by on Apr. 26, 2014 at 6:00 PM

this

Quoting B1Bomber:

Keep the tickets. Continue to offer to take your stepkids each time. Let her be the bad guy, even if they don't know about it.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Apr. 26, 2014 at 6:02 PM
Bm sounds like a total bitch You keep your tickets and tell her to go fuck herself!
Teeshann
by Gold Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 6:02 PM
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i would tell her that you would be happy to take the kids instead of friends but your sister gave the tickets to you to use how you see fit. she's always given you enough to take friends and you just thought you'd offer to take the stepkids first. if she doesn't want to let them go then that's her problem but if she isn't going to let them go with you then you are going to invite friends to use the tickets.

i would also point out that these are not your husband's tickets. they are a gift from your sister to you.

AjsMom0508
by Gold Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 6:03 PM
This is why I married a man who was a virgin when I met him. No baggage. Jeez what a mess. Bm has bats in her belfry.
sdsstargazer
by Gold Member on Apr. 26, 2014 at 6:03 PM
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I would tell BM that I'm sorry but there is nothing in the court order stating that you have to give her the extra tickets. Too bad, so sad. It does suck for the kids, but at least they get to go when you do have them. I'd also only start corresponding with her via email/text or record conversations that way you have a paper trail should she become belligerent or threatening. That way you can have proof for the courts should DH ever decide to contest for 50/50 or full custody.
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