For weeks my mother has been asking for a pair of shoes that she wants me to purchase for her. We live in the same county and sometimes do our grocery shopping together or visit the mall, movies etc. So everytime we go somewhere and see those shoes she brings it up. Her latest attempt is that mother's day is coming up and she wants them as a present. Normally this would not be an issue. I would purchase the shoes and be done with it. However, my parents have run into some financial troubles over the last couple of years. I have helped out where I can by paying off the remaining balance on my mother's car, a few mortgage payments, cell phone etc. I am happy to do this for my parents. But this demand by my mother for shoes is too much. She has a closet full of shoes and doesnt wear half of them. So finally I told her I am not your only child, you have three other children why not ask them to get the shoes for you? She gets upset after I said that and said she doesn't know why she asked to begin with, no one appreciates her etc. She then says two of my siblings won't even come home for mother's day. The two siblings she is referring to have taken on the responsibility of two of my parent's bills since they started having trouble and they live on the otherside of the state from my parents. I said well how about my oldest sibling and she said oh I couldn't ask him to do that. This sibling has a job, doesn't help my parents with their bills or financially, talks to my mother everyday (so it is not an estranged relationship) but she cannot ask him to buy her a pair of shoes? So am I wrong for refusing to buy the shoes and feel a little bit hurt?