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What do you mean you're NOT going? UPDATE!!

Posted by on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:08 AM
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Ds school feild trip to the zoo is today, Dh has to chaperone due to ds allergy to goat dander, dh has to give him the benadryl since the teacher is not allowed...

Anywho... ds has been so excited that daddy gets to go on the feild trip with him, hes been talking about it all weekend.. DH has been reluctant - not wanting to be with a bunch of screaming kids, plus he is sooooo not a morning person. I would have went, but that would mean i would be missing a days pay from work, so with dh bein a sahd, we figured it was more cost sensible for him to go and I can go to work.

I get a call this morning at my office from DH saying that ds doesnt want to go to the feild trip. I was like WHAT? The kid who has been bouncing off the walls all weekend in excitement that daddy gets to go with him to the zoo with his class - the kid who loves the zoo - suddenly doesnt want to go!!!

It really just pissed me off, i know that dh had to have said something to him that made him change his mind - ds is 6y - very impressionable. What a dick move - just because dh is being a little baby about going, he has to ruin it for ds.

When dh called me at work to tell me that ds said he doesnt want to go, i asked to speak to ds - when i asked him if he really wanted to stay behind while his whole class goes, he said that he was going to go, but the way he said it was as if he didnt want to upset daddy bu saying yes.

To me this is important for ds - especially having a parent chaperone - it really pisses me off that dh would try and take that memory away from ds, just because he doesnt want to get his lazy ass out of bed. If he didnt want to go - i would have taken off of work and said f*ck it to a days pay - in which i have asked dh repeatedly if he wanted me to take off and go, but he insisted that he would chaperone and that i go to work.

A lasting memory for ds is more important to me than missing 1 day at work.. so now im sitting here at the office, heated and worried that dh didnt take him - dh phone ran out of minutes this morning, so i have no way to confirm that they went.


UPDATE: They both went on the feild trip, Ds didnt even need his allergy medicine since there were no goats at the petting zoo. Overall they both said they had fun. DH maintains that DS was the one who didnt want to go, but i still feel that he had some influence on that decision. All that matters is that they went and they had fun.

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Lilith23
by Platinum Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:11 AM
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:/ I'm a mean type of wife and i would have told dh to not fuck shit up and go or else he'll have to face my fury.
I hope your little bubba went and have fun.
angelachristine
by Platinum Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:11 AM
Oh I would flip out. Can't he take a benadryl before he leaves the house?
bluebunnybabe
by Ruby Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:12 AM
First, if your husband really didn't want to chaperone, I would think your son could have just taken a Benadryl before school. Second, if your husband is a SAHD, it seems like that's just part of the job to me. If there's a lot of things like that he doesn't want to do, maybe he would be better off working & y'all just finding after school care or something. Anyway, I hope your son went & has fun.
ff-princess
by Platinum Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:12 AM

that's a douchey move, and that's the nicest thing I can say.  I would kick his ass.  dh and I are both chaperoning the field trip this year, the teacher is glad to have a male to escort the boys to the bathroom.  and because he knows what's good for him, dh hasn't once expressed any desire to not go. 

seriously, because he's too f'ing lazy to get out of bed?  that's completely unacceptable.

1L2CMommy
by Silver Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:12 AM

What a shitty dad your DS got stuck with.  Your desciption of DH is exactly my opinion of SAHD.  It's just a disguise for lazy moocher.  Not a morning person.  Smh.  I'm not a morning person either, yet the latest I've slept since being a SAHM is 7:00 am.

TisHerself
by Silver Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:12 AM

Yeah, that would seriously tick me off, if the reasons you suspect for not going are correct. Not only is your son missing out on something he has been looking forward to, your husband may be screwing up the trip for others. Whenever I've chaperoned field trips, I am responsible for additional kids, not just my child. Bottom line: he made a commitment, and barring an emergency, should keep it. 

ausomezombie2.0
by Silver Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:13 AM
Yea that's no good ugh...
happymommy1105
by Silver Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:13 AM
Pretty sure you can take benadryl before he leaves the house. He can still go.

Or keep him away from the goats.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:14 AM

often field trips happen in the afternoon, so giving a dose before school really wouldn't be beneficial.  ours starts this year after lunch, so by the time they got to the goat it would be out of his system. 

Quoting bluebunnybabe: First, if your husband really didn't want to chaperone, I would think your son could have just taken a Benadryl before school. Second, if your husband is a SAHD, it seems like that's just part of the job to me. If there's a lot of things like that he doesn't want to do, maybe he would be better off working & y'all just finding after school care or something. Anyway, I hope your son went & has fun.


April620
by Ruby Member on Apr. 28, 2014 at 9:14 AM
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So many things wrong with this post.
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