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Yeah because she really needed those

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My ex told me he couldn't help with dd's summer stuff....why? Because he "had" to buy his wife implants, because she was oh so insecure having no boobs as in she had fibroids in both breasts and needed them removed (mastectomy?) He now can't buy his ds food

Smh priorities, he really needs to learn them
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:18 PM
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elfling811
by Niki on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:33 PM
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As someone who has had extensive reconstruction after breast cancer, if I didn't have insurance or had bad insurance, my reconstruction would have waited until we could afford it. My appearance is not more important than providing for my child.

I see what you are saying, though. I think we are in agreement, just explaining it differently...lol

Quoting Anouck:

Or they didn't have insurance... Or shitty insurance... Or insurance that didn't cover 100%.  Either way, I go by what the OP said, which is that the woman had to have her breast tissue removed, and that the ex paid for implants. If it was just for implants without the breast removal part, it would have been a totally different story. 

Quoting elfling811: If she had a mastectomy, insurance is required to cover reconstruction if desired. Since they ended up having to pay for it, it makes me think that wasn't the case. There are federal mandates that ensure that insurance pays for those things.

Quoting Anouck:

Uh, you're kind of an asshole. If she really did have a mastectomy, that's a MAJOR deal, and yes, can ABSOLUTELY lead to her not feeling like a real woman anymore, and having some serious self esteem issues. 

WhiteRose24
by Silver Member on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:33 PM
I understand his priorities are out of order but can you not afford food for your ds?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:34 PM
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The ds is the wife's baby

Quoting Sassy762:

The DD in the post is OP's DD and her Ex-DH

The DS is her Ex-DH and his wife's child......that is they way I read it

OP.....is DS your child or the 2nd Wifes child

Quoting Anonymous:

What?  It says in the post "He now can't buy his ds food"  "him" would be referring to the "ds".  lol

Quoting Sassy762:

OP should provide food for her Ex and his wife's son?????

Quoting Anonymous:

Why don't you buy him food?

angelachristine
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:36 PM
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I'm just going by what op put so I have no clue the situation. I'm sure the mastectomy is a horrible situation but she could have waited till they could afford it to get the implants. Possibly set up a pre-payment plan and buy a masectomy bra in the meantime. He didn't need to spend himself broke over it especially not if it comes at the expense of feeding the household.

Quoting Anonymous:

What makes you or her think the child is "going to go without food"?

Do you think he should have planned on his wife having to have both of her breasts removed?  

Quoting angelachristine:

You wouldn't care if you knew your kid's half sibling was going to go without food? I think she is saying both the kids are suffering because of his poor financial planning.

Quoting Anonymous:


She said "dd's summer stuff"  and  "ds food".  I don't see where she has differentiated that they belong to different people.  

If they do have different parents why does she care about someone else's kid's food?

Quoting angelachristine:

no it plainly says that op has a dd with him the ds must be exs with someone else.

Quoting Anonymous:

What?  It says in the post "He now can't buy his ds food"  "him" would be referring to the "ds".  lol

Quoting Sassy762:

OP should provide food for her Ex and his wife's son?????

Quoting Anonymous:

Why don't you buy him food?




elfling811
by Niki on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:37 PM
You can qualify for emergency medical for something like that. We had to do that for my aunt because she found a lump and didn't have insurance. She hasn't paid a dime for anything.

Your insurance can not refuse you a mastectomy if you need it.

Quoting AZHOTMOM:

 


Quoting elfling811: If she had a mastectomy, insurance is required to cover reconstruction if desired. Since they ended up having to pay for it, it makes me think that wasn't the case. There are federal mandates that ensure that insurance pays for those things.
Quoting Anouck:

Uh, you're kind of an asshole. If she really did have a mastectomy, that's a MAJOR deal, and yes, can ABSOLUTELY lead to her not feeling like a real woman anymore, and having some serious self esteem issues. 


 Maybe she doesn't have insurance? I have just a limited medical plan, it would NEVER cover the cost of the mastectomy.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:37 PM

But why would she know if they have food in their house or not.

It is extremely unlikely that they don't have food.

Quoting angelachristine:

I'm just going by what op put so I have no clue the situation. I'm sure the mastectomy is a horrible situation but she could have waited till they could afford it to get the implants. Possibly set up a pre-payment plan and buy a masectomy bra in the meantime. He didn't need to spend himself broke over it especially not if it comes at the expense of feeding the household.

Quoting Anonymous:

What makes you or her think the child is "going to go without food"?

Do you think he should have planned on his wife having to have both of her breasts removed?  

Quoting angelachristine:

You wouldn't care if you knew your kid's half sibling was going to go without food? I think she is saying both the kids are suffering because of his poor financial planning.

Quoting Anonymous:


She said "dd's summer stuff"  and  "ds food".  I don't see where she has differentiated that they belong to different people.  

If they do have different parents why does she care about someone else's kid's food?

Quoting angelachristine:

no it plainly says that op has a dd with him the ds must be exs with someone else.

Quoting Anonymous:

What?  It says in the post "He now can't buy his ds food"  "him" would be referring to the "ds".  lol

Quoting Sassy762:

OP should provide food for her Ex and his wife's son?????

Quoting Anonymous:

Why don't you buy him food?





Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:37 PM
He cant pay for half of dd's summer stuff like he's supposed to

And he also can't pay for his sons food for the next fee months

Quoting mehaffiesub: So which is it his DDs summer stuff or his DSs food that your ex cant pay for?
angelachristine
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:39 PM
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does his ds live with him? I mean why specifically ds food are the wife and him going to eat in front of the kid or do they not have food for themselves too? 

Quoting Anonymous: He cant pay for half of dd's summer stuff like he's supposed to And he also can't pay for his sons food for the next fee months
Quoting mehaffiesub: So which is it his DDs summer stuff or his DSs food that your ex cant pay for?


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:39 PM
She didn't have cancer she had fibroids which most insurances don't cover fully

Quoting elfling811: As someone who has had extensive reconstruction after breast cancer, if I didn't have insurance or had bad insurance, my reconstruction would have waited until we could afford it. My appearance is not more important than providing for my child.

I see what you are saying, though. I think we are in agreement, just explaining it differently...lol

Quoting Anouck:

Or they didn't have insurance... Or shitty insurance... Or insurance that didn't cover 100%.  Either way, I go by what the OP said, which is that the woman had to have her breast tissue removed, and that the ex paid for implants. If it was just for implants without the breast removal part, it would have been a totally different story. 

Quoting elfling811: If she had a mastectomy, insurance is required to cover reconstruction if desired. Since they ended up having to pay for it, it makes me think that wasn't the case. There are federal mandates that ensure that insurance pays for those things.

Quoting Anouck:

Uh, you're kind of an asshole. If she really did have a mastectomy, that's a MAJOR deal, and yes, can ABSOLUTELY lead to her not feeling like a real woman anymore, and having some serious self esteem issues. 

BrittSam2011
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2014 at 6:39 PM
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Wow, way to prioritize. Boobs are SO much more important than food and clothing for your children. Lol she could have just NOT worn a bikini this summer. Idiots.

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