A woman I know doesn't help support her parents at all cause of this. WDYT?
I'm acquaintances with her but my sister is closer friends. Today she told me this about her.
She grew up with very conservative, religious parents who believe a woman's place is in the home. She had 3 brothers and she basically had to do all the housework with her mom, was punished if she let her homework eat into her chores and was discouraged from taking challenging classes in high school. Despite all of it, she graduated near the top of her class and was admitted to the colleges she applied to behind their backs. They basically told her even though they had the money and were planning on paying for her brothers to go to school, they wouldn't pay for her since they didn't believe she needed higher education or that it was "proper" for her to move out before marriage. Basically, long story short, they pretty much disowned her when she got loans, moved out and did it anyway.
They paid for her brothers to go to school, but they either flunked out or weren't very successful as adults. She, in contrast, is an engineer and a senior director in her company. Her parents lost their money and were battling severe health issues, and after not speaking to her for years (she gave them a second chance and they made rude comments about her being a working mother), called her to ask for money.
Her response? She laughed, said "why don't you ask your sons?" and hung up. As far as she knows, they live in a basement apartment now and are both ill but can't afford help.