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Self esteem issues...

Anonymous
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I need some advice with self esteem issues, ladies.

DH just had an affair and I feel like that certainly hasn't helped the matter (as now I feel even worse about myself).I feel like she's prettier than me, and just better than me in general. DH says that type of attitude isn't attractive. Well no shit. Im not a skinny girl, bit even when I was skinny, I still didn't feel good about myself.

Ideas? Anyone else dealt with this?
Posted by Anonymous on May. 3, 2014 at 8:24 PM
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firebird78
by Lilly's mom on May. 3, 2014 at 8:26 PM
Yes, I thought the other woman was better than me (in some way)
Wasted a lot of time trying to figure out what it was
Turns out there wasn't an answer
Not for that
I just realized he was a waste on my time and left
Turns out I was right and should've left a lot sooner
Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2014 at 8:28 PM
My advice?

Ditch the asshole!
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 3, 2014 at 8:30 PM
We're working things out. He's never done anything like this before and he's starting counseling soon.

I'm just realizing my self esteem has seemingly been bad, and now its worse.

Quoting firebird78: Yes, I thought the other woman was better than me (in some way)
Wasted a lot of time trying to figure out what it was
Turns out there wasn't an answer
Not for that
I just realized he was a waste on my time and left
Turns out I was right and should've left a lot sooner
AZHOTMOM
by Platinum Member on May. 3, 2014 at 8:31 PM

You have to love yourself and get rid of the douche that put doubt in your mind. Your husband should make you feel beautiful, not horrible. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 3, 2014 at 8:31 PM
Lol, we're working things out, but thanks.

Quoting Anonymous: My advice?

Ditch the asshole!
Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2014 at 8:32 PM
First remember that his bad decision is his own. He is the one who lacked morality, and chose to break his vows. That speaks of his poor character, and has nothing to do with your appearance, or attitude - no woman (well none that I know) would have a great attitude in your situation. Don't let him put you down for his choices he is just being controlling, and passing blame over where it doesn't belong. That being said you need to do what makes you feel good. Start from the inside, and work your way to the outside. Each positive step is a celebration, and take pride your accomplishments. Don't let him put down your progress because even with poor self esteem you haven't brought yourself down to his level.
firebird78
by Lilly's mom on May. 3, 2014 at 8:33 PM
Its not you..... there is nothing about that woman that makes her better than you
She's a homewrecker.....
(just like my ex's whore)
He is the one with the problem
Not you
Please don't waste your time thinking she has something so great about her
He probably sees nothing in her either, except just pure opportunity

Quoting Anonymous: We're working things out. He's never done anything like this before and he's starting counseling soon.

I'm just realizing my self esteem has seemingly been bad, and now its worse.

Quoting firebird78: Yes, I thought the other woman was better than me (in some way)
Wasted a lot of time trying to figure out what it was
Turns out there wasn't an answer
Not for that
I just realized he was a waste on my time and left
Turns out I was right and should've left a lot sooner
Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 3, 2014 at 8:38 PM
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Well, it sounds to me that he needs to work a little harder. He cheated on you, and he tells you that being a little down about it is unattractive?

I would tell him that it's not actually his affair that's making me feel down. It's how terribly unsatisfying our sex life is due to his ugly mug and tiny dick. Then when he whines, tell him his attitude is unattractive.

I should totally be a marriage counselor!

Quoting Anonymous: Lol, we're working things out, but thanks.

Quoting Anonymous: My advice?

Ditch the asshole!
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on May. 3, 2014 at 8:38 PM
You're right. He's even said the same thing. It only ever happened once, and that he never meant for anything to happen, and I believe him. We've neglected our relationship for the kids for a long time.

That being said, all that stuff I'm thinking is all in my head. I find myself looking at her FB profile and just seething and feeling like crap at the same time. I shouldn't do it to myself but its hard not to.

Quoting firebird78: Its not you..... there is nothing about that woman that makes her better than you
She's a homewrecker.....
(just like my ex's whore)
He is the one with the problem
Not you
Please don't waste your time thinking she has something so great about her
He probably sees nothing in her either, except just pure opportunity

Quoting Anonymous: We're working things out. He's never done anything like this before and he's starting counseling soon.

I'm just realizing my self esteem has seemingly been bad, and now its worse.

Quoting firebird78: Yes, I thought the other woman was better than me (in some way)
Wasted a lot of time trying to figure out what it was
Turns out there wasn't an answer
Not for that
I just realized he was a waste on my time and left
Turns out I was right and should've left a lot sooner
firebird78
by Lilly's mom on May. 3, 2014 at 8:40 PM
My ex would've been dumbfounded if I had told him that lol!

Quoting Anonymous: Well, it sounds to me that he needs to work a little harder. He cheated on you, and he tells you that being a little down about it is unattractive?

I would tell him that it's not actually his affair that's making me feel down. It's how terribly unsatisfying our sex life is due to his ugly mug and tiny dick. Then when he whines, tell him his attitude is unattractive.

I should totally be a marriage counselor!

Quoting Anonymous: Lol, we're working things out, but thanks.

Quoting Anonymous: My advice?

Ditch the asshole!
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