and mentally retarded? I may sound really uneducated, but thats why I am asking, because I honestly have no idea. I was thinking about this the other day. What does "retarded" define? autistic? or what? or is being mentally retarded a handicap of its own? I'm confused. I'm sorry if this is offensive, but I simply want to understand better. Some one on this site mentioned a man calling a family members autistic child "retarded" so it got me thinking. again, sorry if I sound offensive in any way, it is not my intention at all.