ETA** Should I let him take just his son and leave the other behind? * long*
Although i understand my oldest is not his He is the one who agreed to be there. I told him if he didnt want to he didnt have to. So it was all him.
I confronted him about the lie. Thats when he said he didnt want to take him. He didnt give me an explanation as to why. His mother would never make my oldest feel left out so I know for a fact its all him.
My ex and I were together for 3 years before splitting up in Feb.. we have a 2 year old son together and I have a 5 year old son from a previous abusive relationship. My ex was there for my son since he was a year and a half. My sons father hasnt been involved at all.
After our split we agreed to see if we can work things out. He picks up the kids every other weekend and takes them to his home and the other weekends he spends at my home. Hes agreed to still be there for my oldest no matter what. I did not force him to he just said it. Which I was fine with it.
Now heres the issue: My exes step dad has a family reunion every year. This year its at the end of May. Well my ex asked if he can take the kids and I said it was fine. He then said his mother didnt want my oldest going because he wasnt part of thier family. Which was a complete lie because I spoke to his mom. Turns out my ex doesnt want to take my oldest.
My problem is that it isnt fair for any of my boys. They are always together no matter what. Theyre usually sad when theyre not. I feel he should take both or none at all. Our son is not related to his stepdad or his family. His stepdad isnt even married to his mother. So for hin to say that my oldest isnt part of that family is dumb because neither of my boys are.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? Should I let him just take his son or none of them at all? Mamas please no bashing. I just need advice on what I should do.