I wanted other's opinion on the topic, to see if I'm just overreacting or my feelings towards the situation are...normal and justified. I'm not talking about my "job description" such as cook, clean, raise the kids. I get that. I mean more as a wife....as a human, really.
My husband has two jobs; he sets up tents for special occassions and he's also a mover. With this type of job there isn't a set schedule...they are just done when they are done. That aspect alone is tough, but tolerable. I feel invisible and unnoticed a lot. He will go all day without talking to me, usually up until dinner time when I'll text him asking if he is almost done (so I am able to coordinate dinner with his arrival.) MAYBE he'll send me a quick "Hi" text, but it's usually during the kids' and I's nap time. It's more of a "there, I acknowledged you today," type text more than anything...nothing meaningful.
When we first got together he worked in a kitchen. We use to talk, or text all throughout the day, so I felt acknowledged and loved. I understand he has to work and he can't give me all of the attention in the world, but I don't think it's impossible for him to take some time to say hi, thinking about you, love you, miss you during his breaks. He works long hours, so I'd say I'm "alone" 90% of the time, with no one to talk to besides the kids. I've tried mommy groups and it's just not really my thing....the moms my age tend to still hold on to their younger years more than I do, so we've always kind of not been able to bond.
I feel unappreciated and unloved. I constantly have this conversation with him and it'll be good for literally one day and then be back to nothing. He works with friends so I feel kind of left out that he doesn't really take the time to talk to me. Is this kind of thing expected for SAHM's? Am I just being unresonable? I find myself wanting to leave alot because I'm so tired of being invisible....so I'm trying to figure out if I'm just a whiny-cry-baby or if this isn't how things usually are for stay at home moms.