I just need to vent about sister smoking while pregnant
Ok, she has been smoking since she was 15. She had never cared about quitting. The only time she has ever tried was when she was out of work. And only because our mom refused to by her cigs, but offered patches instead. We actually talked in the past about if she would quit when she got pregnant. Even then, she said she had heard quitting stress would be worse for the baby than smoking.
So, she found out she was pregnant. She tried to quit. Well, she "cut back" for about a month. Now she's back up to over a pack a day. In the beginning, I tried to help her quit. And we talked about the dangers of smoking. Then suddenly she decided the only possible issue would be low birth weight, and made it clear she wouldn't quit. That was around 4 months. She's 8 months now. I have not mentioned it again. It's not my place.
But, it's like a constant worry. She's gone into labor twice. Real labor. Both times it's stopped. She smells like an ash tray. And I stand there and watch her sucking down these death sticks while commenting on how the baby is kicking.
Since I'm already venting, she also whines constantly. She drinks caffeine because she's tired. Takes medicine she's not necessarily supposed to. (My opinion. Things may have changed since my pregnancy 8 years ago. But my doc gave me a list, and I suffered the worst cold of my life and didn't take a thing, because I didn't want to risk it.).
I know she loves her baby. But I can't imagine knowing you're pregnant, and doing something like that. Every cigarette I would feel like shit. I would hate myself and feel so guilty that I would probably guilt myself into quitting pretty quick. And if the baby comes and has issues, it's going to break my heart for both of them. It just makes me feel bad. Like my heart is heavy.
She and I are so similar. But also so different. I have always been more mature, where she just goes with the flow. She gets herself into situations that she can't get herself out of. Someone always steps in to help. For me, having my son made me grow up like crazy. She has not bought even a single outfit for the baby herself yet. Everything she has was purchased by the rest of us. Meanwhile her limited income is going towards take out and cigs.
Sorry this is so long. Again, I know it's none of my business. I'm doing my best to keep my opinions to myself. But I had to get it out. Thanks to anyone who bothered to get this far.