If you have held your kids back or know of someone who holds their kids back in school please let me know why, I really want to know other opinions about this
I am a step mom to two children...My SD is 9 and in second grade, My bio son is 7 and in second grade as well. My step son is 6 and has never been in school. He will start kinder in the fall and will be a 7 year old kindergartner! When both children graduate high school they will both be 19 years old...and that's if they graduate on time. There is no room for error because if they do fail...they'll be 20.
The bio mom is holding her kids back because she feels "they aren't ready". I honestly think she's holding them back because SHE isn't ready. I'm not saying this to brag or put BM mom down, but her highest education level that she has reached is a HS diploma. I am a social worker and I think that if she is going to make a decision like that, she should get a professional opinion first. It is a know fact that children learn and absorb things more before age six. I am certain that when our child starts school there will be some concerns from the teacher and other staff from the school. He's is 6 and doesn't know how to read or write letters. He is also very immature. He has the social skills of a 3 year old.
We have already been to court and nothing has been done besides us have joint 50/50 placement of the children. The state that we live in only mandates that children over 6 be enrolled in school and SS was only 5 at the beginning od the school year.
Update: In my profession I do a lot of referrals for programs that young children are eligible for. I don't think its wise to turn down help when it is available. I dont think the BM is looking out for her child's best interest, I do however believe she has ulterior motives for keeping her child home. I am concerned that her children will be older than most of her classmates. Its known that being older than most of your peers is one of the top reasons students drop out of high school. I feel that as their parents we should do every thing in our power to help them succeed in life. Holding them back, does not, It does just that...hold them back.