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Would you or have you ever supplied your child with birth control?

Posted by on May. 14, 2014 at 9:24 AM
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Proud Mom Leaves Son a Condom for Date Night (PHOTO)

by Maressa Brown

condoms on shelvesAlthough sex ed in schools continues to be a hot topic of debate, how parents deal with the subject at home is a different story. Some moms have an open dialogue with their kids on the subject, while others prefer to stay mum until asked, and meanwhile, there are moms supplying their teens with condoms in an effort to encourage safe sex.

One illustrated example: A photo of a note a mom supposedly (well, we're not 100 percent sure of its authenticity) wrote for her son, accompanied by a condom that she's encouraging him to use "if things get serious" when his girlfriend comes over. The pic has gone viral, and unsurprisingly, everyone has an opinion on just how advisable this is. Check it out ... 

Why shouldn't we ALL be all for this?! Teens have sex. This is not a newsflash to anyone. And yet, a prevailing way of handling the subject is to keep our lips zipped with the hope that silence will encourage kids to keep their pants zipped. Or hoping and keeping our fingers crossed that they'll just figure out how to practice safe sex on their own, from school, or a Google search. But why settle for either of those strategies when you can actually empower them with knowledge and birth control?

Parents can't just assume their kids are going to go pick up their own condoms or birth control pills. Sure, if they're old enough to be having sex, they should be responsible enough to do that. But you never know. And even if they do have birth control at hand, it doesn't hurt to reiterate the extremely important point that if you're going to do it, do it safely, in a way that minimizes risk of disease or unwanted pregnancy.

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And no, arming them with condoms isn't necessarily encouraging them to have sex. A World Health Organization review of studies on sexuality education found that access to counseling and contraceptive services did not encourage earlier or increased sexual activity.

So there you go. It couldn't be more clear that condoms to kids does them more good than harm. For any parent who wants the best for their teen, it's really a no-brainer!

What do you think about this mom's note to her son? Would you or have you ever supplied your child with birth control?

by on May. 14, 2014 at 9:24 AM
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Cafe Steph
by Head Admin on May. 14, 2014 at 9:25 AM
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I personally have no problem with her supplying him with a condom, but I do take issue with HOW she did it, especially since she POKED A HOLE IN IT with the push pin, lol.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 14, 2014 at 9:26 AM
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ABSOLUTELY! I would rather do that, then ever risk being a grandmother too early. It's a no-brainer from where I sit.

Not_A_Native
by Ruby Member on May. 14, 2014 at 9:28 AM
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I would absolutely do that (minus the push pin, lol).

I took my girls to get birth control pills, I supplied all my kids with condoms.  They are now 32, 24, 20 and 19, and I am NOT a grandmother!

mandaday
by Silver Member on May. 14, 2014 at 9:28 AM
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I'm more than happy to supply my kids with birth control. But I would strongly advise against giving them condoms with a big hole poked in it by a thumb tack.
momto2boys973
by Ruby Member on May. 14, 2014 at 9:28 AM
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My children will be informed, but I don't believe in sending them the mixed message of "I don't approve of premarital sex" followed by "but since you'll probably do it anyway and I'm powerless to stop you *wink* *wink*, here's a condom, have fun".
My kids know I'll not approve and I'll certainly won't contribute to actions I don't agree with.
GamerMomma2
by Bronze Member on May. 14, 2014 at 9:29 AM

My parents supplied mine. I suppose that when my kids are older, I will do the same.

chairhead28
by Gold Member on May. 14, 2014 at 9:29 AM
Yes, if my teen was having sex I would most definitely get them the proper protection. It isn't a "get out of jail" free card like some think-it's simply being logical and knowing teens do have sex sometimes.
WatermelonP
by Member on May. 14, 2014 at 9:31 AM
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The picture is clearly a joke...

But yes, I plan to educate my kids fully about safe sex. Which includes having birth control accessible.

Xat
by Silver Member on May. 14, 2014 at 9:33 AM
This.

Quoting momto2boys973: My children will be informed, but I don't believe in sending them the mixed message of "I don't approve of premarital sex" followed by "but since you'll probably do it anyway and I'm powerless to stop you *wink* *wink*, here's a condom, have fun".
My kids know I'll not approve and I'll certainly won't contribute to actions I don't agree with.
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NonaScheib38
by Gold Member on May. 14, 2014 at 9:33 AM
There is more to the conversation than a note.

You can inform your kids without telling them that it WILL happen and here's your bc. My mom did that and it sucked and she made me feel weird for not wanting to have sex yet. Too many people think that you either are completely silent about sex or you're Amy pohlers character in mean girls
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