Another update: A girl came to my door claiming to be my Husbands Daughter (cant edit)
My husband came home at 4pm because i told him he needed to get home. I told him what happened. He denied it at first. But I knew he was lying.I could see it in his eyes and manner. I have known this man for 25 years. My heart pretty much broke. I told him I knew he was lying. He tried for 30 minutes to convince me it was a lie. I told him okay when she gets here I will go get a DNA test and we can take it. He went to our bedroom and slammed the door. He came down 30 minutes later and told me the truth. He said that when we were married about 3 years he met a woman. They started something and she became pregnant and about the same time she found out that he had been lying to her and that he was not seperated and actually married and I was pregnant as well. She told him to leave and never come back and she gave the baby up for adoption. He signed the papers when she was born. He knew about her. I am so angry.She doesnt live with her mom ( i know some people were asking about that) she was adopted out. When she came later I went up to my room and packed my bags. My children and I are going to my sisters for a few weeks until I decide what to do. I do not blame the girl, I dont even blame the woman, and told the girl last night if she wants to meet her siblings to call me and let me know. I know its been almost 19 years but its stil a betrayel. I am not sure i can get past it. I did not expect my post to blow up this big. I havent read all your replies but thanks for your well wishes.
UPDATE : I havent talk to husband. He has called me a few times but I decided to at least not talk to him this weekend. The girl did call me. I told the kids tonight what has happened. The young lady is coming out with me and the kids for sunday dinner at a resturant we go to sometimes after church. She is meeting her siblings there. My two oldest are not taking it well. I told them that their father loves them and this is between me and him and it doesnt change the fact he is your father. My youngest two are not getting it . I know some of you were asking about wheter i would let her see her siblings. Like I said before she was an innocent here.