No, I will not allow your son to just come in. Yes I will call the police. EDIT
I was told by a new neighbor, a middle-aged woman... that I should keep my doors closed if I don't want her son coming into my house.
Apparently, this woman has a son who is special needs.
He is in his mid 20s and lives with her. She explained that he sometimes goes into people's houses, especially if there is an easy way in.
She said he is not dangerous, but becomes sad if you ask him to leave.
So she advised me to call her first if he ever comes in.
Here's my issue with that.
First of all, I was here first. I lived here before she moved into the neighborhood. And if I was aware of this issue beforehand, I wouldn't have wanted to live here. I have a 15 month old daughter and a 3 week old son.
My husband works a lot, leaving me alone with the kids over night and sometimes days as well. Why should I have to deal with him entering MY property? Or even have to fear that he might?
To me, this affects the reasons why we are living in this house.
Second of all, it's summer time! Sometimes I leave my front door open and only have the screen door shut because I like to get some fresh air in the house and give the AC units a break.
So now, I'm expected to keep my door shut if I don't want some guy coming into my fucking house?!
Seriously?! Why do I have to deal with her son? I'm paying this outrageous amount of money to live here because it's safe and it's a nice neighborhood. I do NOT feel safe knowing there's a person who "might" just come in and make himself at home. Jesus, really? Come on.
Thirdly, if I ever did see him in my house, I'm not gonna just call her to come get him. I'm gonna call the police.
What if I am in the living room breastfeeding my baby and he comes in? What if I am giving my kids a bath and he comes in? My first thought isn't gonna be "Oh, it's just Nolan, no big deal. "
Fuck that. I'm gonna grab my gun and tell him to get out immediately. My fucking children are in this house.... this is OUR home. I can't believe I'm supposed to change the way I live for him.
And another thing, I have a pitbull and a lab. My pitbull is not a bad dog, but if he comes in my house, my dogs WILL attack him. And at that point, what can I do?
The whole reason I have these dogs, is because my husband works nights Mon-Thurs and they make me feel safe. They are here to protect my family, and that's what they are trained to do.
How am I supposed to trust that he's not dangerous or won't go crazy?
I don't know him... I just know he doesn't think or function normally and apparently he has no sense of boundaries.
On the letter, there was a picture of him so that I could identify him if he comes inside. He is very overweight. There's no way I could defend myself against him without a weapon.
I'm not happy... I shouldn't be dealing with this, he's not my responsibility.
I can't believe that I am being asked to lock my windows, garage, and doors over summer.
I'm honestly pissed off.
And a little freaked out.
Can anyone tell me what they would do in this situation?
I'm gonna go to sleep now. I didn't think this post would blow up, mine never do so I'm not great at responding but I did my best, lol.
I took everyone's advice and I'm gonna ask the police what can be done. And as Angrybob pointed out, I need to tell the mother myself that I am not cool with this.
I just feel bad because I don't know the struggle of having a SN child and I don't wanna make her life hard, but I don't wanna feel unsafe like this. I worry about my children and I would die before ever letting something happen to them, and I can't just trust this guy because his mom called him "harmless".
I will update this with more info after I get this squared away.