Back story: This lady lives across the street from us and has 3 kids and watches her nephew who is around the same age as my son. Their middle child is the same age as my daughter. My children go over to her house to play together. There are always more children there, so she is never playing alone. I have 1 after school daycare child the same age as my son. They will all play together for an hour or so after school. I know exactly where everyone is and can see her back yard from my front yard. I don't feel I need to helicopter almost 7 year olds. I've gone over several times to watch my kids and she goes in the house while I'm standing in her yard. We have lived here for 3 years and she has talked to me 2 times.
Thoughts? Bash away bashers.
I am the text in blue.
Also she never gave me the magic total I supposedly owe her .
Update: To correct a few misconceptions- I don't let my 2 year old "wander around the neighborhood" this neighbor lives directly across the street and I make sure she gets there and home safely
My kids don't play there everyday. It's usually 1-3 times a week, not consistently, for an hour or so after school. That is hardly "dumping" children on her.
I have the other child's parental permission to play with the neighborhood kids.
My kids are invited to play, so of course they want to play.
Her children are never allowed to leave the yard. I've seen them get yelled at for stepping off the front porch.
Our street had many children around the same age and many of them play in the neighborhood.
We live on a very quiet street with only about 10 cars a day passing through.
We know almost all of our neighbors.
Obviously this is not a complete description of either party.
Most of you seem to think that I am letting the kids go over whenever and for extended periods of time. Not so. It's usually after school play with most of the OTHER neighborhood kids ( not just Kayla's) Sometiems it is 1-3 times a week, if my kids are in invited to play. Sometimes the kids go a week or two without playing. My daycare kid was given permission to play in the neighborhood like this as it is the norm in our area for the kids to play in their neighborhoods freely without direct parental supervision.
The end of school year matters in this as he is a teacher's kid and I have given my 2 weeks notice to her due to extenuating circumstance that I will not discuss here.
My daughter is very bright and a mature child. I would not let her play this way if I felt she could not handle it. Some children need constant supervision and some don't as long as you are aware of what they are doing and where the are. I feel my child is in the latter category.