My mother is having some very bad health problems right now so working is not an option for her. She is in the process of applying for disability. My stepdad works 40 hours a week making $8.00 an hour. BJ has an eating disorder and gets into food all the time (he is autistic so he lives with my mother still). So my mom has to buy extra food every week to make up for what BJ eats.
In all honesty, my mom and stepdad are struggling. BJ needed new shoes a few weeks ago. She called my dad (he lives in Michigan) asking him if he could send her some money for new shoes for BJ. He told her no, as he pays child support and that's what it's for. I ended up buying BJ's shoes. Now, my mom has to use child support to buy food. My dad knows this. Three years ago, I had to buy school clothes for my sister as my mom did not have the money for all three. My dad refused to help. I called my dad after I has finished taking my sister shopping and told him since he couldn't step up and help out, that the least he could do was pay me back half. He told me he would. He never did.
In the CO, it is stated that he has to pay my mom half of what she spends on school supplies. He has never done this. He takes my stepbrothers out to Chuckie Cheese's ALL the time. He takes my stepmom to get her hair and nails done constantly,band is always buying beer and whatever else he wants.
He called my mom 2 weeks ago asking if she could ask for child support to be lowered as he couldn't afford $121 a week anymore. She laughed at him and told him if he can afford to take his stepsons out all the time and pay for his wife's salon trips weekly, he can afford $121 a week. She told him she was done and that she was taking him back to court to get child support raised (he purposely lost his job right before the child support hearing when they split so he would have to pay the bare minimum). She set up an appointment with the prosecutor's office on the 31st. Part of what she's going to ask the judge for is that my dad have to pay child support on BJ for the rest of his life as BJ will never be able to live on his own (my dad, surprisingly, agrees with her that he should continue paying child support on BJ). Do you ladies think she has a chance at getting it raised?
Also, before anyone judges, my mother was an LPN up until I was a teenager. She had some health problems that affected her ability to work so she had to quit. So don't say she had kids she couldn't afford because she could easily afford us. Her health just got in the way.