My MIL that is.
a bit of background. DH (we've been married 3 yrs in sept) comes from a bad family. How he came out clean I have no idea. His dad and brother are alcoholics. BIL hasn't touched alcohol in a few years but snorts pills now. My MIL and SIL are crackheads. SIL got out of jail in oct after a yr. MIL and FIL are separated. My MIL moved to the other side of the state to wait for her br to get out of jail (he made a meth lab, winner huh?). I come from a clean family. My dad unfortunately passed in 2012 when DS was 3 months old.
i got pregnant before I got to know his family. After everyone found out MIL called and asked if I wanted to hang out with the girls and get to know each other. We had got engaged and 3 weeks later we found out I was pregnant. When I was with her in the car I was in the front seat and SIL leaned forward and dropped something on the center console. MIL pulled out a straw and snorted it. She said "it isn't much. Just bath salts" hanging out with your soon to be DIL doing drugs while she's pregnant. (That was a first problem). When I had DS she came across the country to be with us. She detoxes, spends a week at the hospital, and we send her home (2nd problem). We move into her old house and she says she'll fix the furnace. She doesn't but fixes it for her crackhead friend when we moved out. (3rd). She misses both of DS's birthdays. Even with a month advance warning. (4th and 5th).
We get a call today. SIL was in jail overnight and no way home. We go an hr a way to take her home. At this time after a couple days she's in detox mode. MIL said she was going to come get SIL in the morning to take her there away from her "friends". I realized she's able to come at the drop of a hat for SIL being in jail but miss DS's birthdays with a months notice. That was my final straw. I'm done forgiving. (And she blames us for not seeing her even though she moved away from family to wait for meth head).
should I feel guilty for not forgiving.