I want an abortion but my DH doesnt want me to have one.....
Long story short about 5 years ago I lost a baby because of eclampsia at 39 weeks pregnant. I knew after that I never wanted to risk that pain again and got my tubes tied. DH was very supportive and agreed with the decision.
We of course talked about what would ever happen if god forbid I did get pregnant again and we decided that I would never want to carry a baby to term because of the health risks ( I had pre e with two pregnancies and then pre e which turned into e with the baby we lost the doctors said it is likely it would happen again) and the pain it would cause me. Of course we never thought it would ever happen
Well it did. I thought I was going through menopause or something and made a doctors appointment. I was having weird symptoms but it turns out I am pregnant. I feel like I have the worst luck in the entire world. I dont want this at all
And to make things worse my DH doesnt want me to have an abortion. I told him there is no way I am continuing this pregnancy. He hasnt said anything more about it and refuses to talk about it. I have an appointment set for Monday.
Now that it will finally let me edit my post
Some more info. My life was at risk there was a slim chance (less than 15% of a positive outcome that is the lowest bracket my doctor uses)
I am 45 years old and already have high bp and take medications daily because of it
Being closely monitored could have helped but was not a sure thing as was not an option as I have to work and can not live in the hospital 24/7.
I also have 4 children.
When I got eclampsia it was very sudden my bp was stable and then all of a sudden I was having seizures I had 11 total and I have brain damage from it I almost died then
I am not sure what the future holds for me and my husband we still have a lot to work out