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Divorced Parents....Who Is Right? Edit Added!!!

Posted by on May. 18, 2014 at 11:57 PM
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So let's say a couple with three children gets divorced. They have a very bitter divorce and do not communicate at all. A few years after the divorce,Dad has a fallout with his mother and does not speak to her at all anymore.Kids still want to be around their grandmother. Fall out has nothing to do with the kids,but Dad forbids the kids to be around grandmother on his time. Grandmother has no other family and is raising a grandson b/c parents are in jail.The kids invite her and the baby to spend the holidays with them at their mother's house and invite them over for special events.Mom and grandmother have sometimes had a rocky relationship but are civil now and Mom deals with it because she knows it's important for the kids to see their grandmother.

A few years go by,Mom is dating someone for first time since the divorce.Kids invite grandmother and baby over for a cookout to celebrate 17 year old graduating from high school. After dinner,Mom tells kids that they should not be inviting their grandmother over anymore because they need to think about how her new bf feels about having her exMIL around.

Is Mom wrong to tell her kids that?

Edit: Kids are 23, 18 and 16,but are still living at home because they are in school. Does it change things if the kids are older?

by on May. 18, 2014 at 11:57 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on May. 19, 2014 at 12:00 AM
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Yes she is wrong!
QuietNarrative
by Bronze Member on May. 19, 2014 at 12:00 AM
7 moms liked this

Yes she is.   That is their family and they want a relationship! If a new boyfriend isn't comfortable with the family dynamics, he is not a keeper!

Emycf
by Silver Member on May. 19, 2014 at 12:01 AM
Yes that is wrong. She is
their grandmother for goodness sake.
MicheleJM
by Ruby Member on May. 19, 2014 at 12:01 AM

She's wrong.

JJJMommyKris
by Bronze Member on May. 19, 2014 at 12:03 AM
Yes
Punchyobuns
by on May. 19, 2014 at 12:03 AM
Family is always family.
curvygurl1912
by Renee on May. 19, 2014 at 12:03 AM
She is wrong.
aheasley
by Bronze Member on May. 19, 2014 at 12:05 AM

Yes

surromama
by Gold Member on May. 19, 2014 at 12:06 AM
This exactly! That's a little like my situation and my new man was going to have to accept my ex-mil, which dh does with open arms.

Quoting QuietNarrative:

Yes she is.   That is their family and they want a relationship! If a new boyfriend isn't comfortable with the family dynamics, he is not a keeper!

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bellawomen
by Summer on May. 19, 2014 at 12:07 AM
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100% yes she is wrong.  First she seems to be doing what is right for the children, but when a new man walks in suddenly they need to be concerned about how he feels?  Sorry, nope.  It should still be about what is best for the children.  The boyfriend needs to understand he is walking into a family dynamic that has always been this way.  A secure man would welcome the relationships to foster.

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