We are not rich by any means, in fact there have been times we have been flat broke and only had $5 to last us for over a week.
But DH and I have learned to take better care of our money. We have learned to save and live well under our means instead of over our means.
Both friendships I lost I started out sympathizing with the family. I understand because I understand hard times, but then I would get taken advantage of and then it would turn into them wanting to borrow money or constantly talking about their struggles. Then what would send me over the edge is they would ask to borrow money but then not spend money responsibly. Or if I told them I couldn't loan them any money I would get snotty remarks or guilted.
So am I shallow? Or do I just find bad friends?