I think it's pretty sad when women leave their husbands
I'm not saying that this is something your husband should know obviously, but if you immediately divorce him without even trying to figure out what went wrong, I think you are just as selfish as he is. If it doesn't work then it just doesn't work, but at least you guys can not only go your seperate ways knowing you TRIED, but you will also at least have a friendship.
When people up and divorce at the first indescretions without ever trying to push through, it typically leads to an angry, hateful, bitter co-parenting relationship.
Of course I am not talking about repeat offenders or abusers