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Why do I still feel guilty?

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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I left my abusive ex, divorced him. He has ruined his life and is about to lose the house he fought me for when we got divorced. He has asked me to move back in and basically rescue him out of the situation.

I am not falling for it but why does he treat me so badly, then play the sad lost puppy card AND I feel guilty? He never feels guilty each time he screws me over but yet I feel bad for him.

I must be a glutten for punishment.
Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 2, 2014 at 10:56 PM
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j3st3r
by on Jun. 2, 2014 at 10:57 PM
Cut ties, momma. He will hurt you more if given the chance.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jun. 2, 2014 at 10:58 PM
He's obviously doing it on purpose, don't fall for it.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jun. 2, 2014 at 10:58 PM
Sounds normal. I'm glad you're using your head and not your heart. He doesn't deserve you and you don't deserve to be treated like that.
mommyof2andTTC
by Gold Member on Jun. 2, 2014 at 10:58 PM
Because you are a good person.

BUT DO NOT GIVE IN! LET HIM BAIL HIS OWN ASS OUT!
crysiann
by Platinum Member on Jun. 2, 2014 at 10:59 PM
It's called manipulation. Men like that are pros at it. I know from experience too. Cut ties completely if possible.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jun. 2, 2014 at 11:00 PM
He's playing with you and knows it. Hook, line, sink. Dont fall for it.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jun. 2, 2014 at 11:08 PM
We have kids or else I would refuse to speak to him.

I just hate feeling so guilty for something he did to himself. I feel bad for rejecting him.

Quoting crysiann: It's called manipulation. Men like that are pros at it. I know from experience too. Cut ties completely if possible.
crysiann
by Platinum Member on Jun. 2, 2014 at 11:10 PM
Then you only speak to him regarding the children. His house, his problem. You feel guilty because you're a good person, just remind yourself that he is not!

Quoting Anonymous: We have kids or else I would refuse to speak to him.

I just hate feeling so guilty for something he did to himself. I feel bad for rejecting him.

Quoting crysiann: It's called manipulation. Men like that are pros at it. I know from experience too. Cut ties completely if possible.
Beyonce1
by on Jun. 2, 2014 at 11:10 PM
It is time to think about yourself. He's a big boy and can deal with his problems on his own. Make yourself happy.
Lostinindy
by Platinum Member on Jun. 2, 2014 at 11:11 PM
Just remember all the hurt and let it go. You can't change him.
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