Just to be clear, by "school" I mean preschool/daycare and punishment I mean natural consequences.
My kids to go a preschool program that serves breakfast at 8am. Kids that arrive after 8:05 go to the playroom, not the kitchen, and by 8:15 or so breakfast is packed up and over with.
We usually arrive about 7:45. My nearly 4 year old LOVES to eat at school (because they have crappy food.. pancakes on a stick, eggos...junk food).
Lately he has been doing this "I can'ttttttttt" whiny thing whenever we ask him to do something. He does not know how to put his socks on, can't manage to get his shoes on the right feet, puts his pants on backwards and then acts like he has no idea what were talking about. This kid has been dressing independently for months!
Today I noticed while I was brushing his teeth that his shirt was turned around and his shoes were on backwards.
I told him he needed to go back to his room, fix his shirt (he looked at the tag, he knew what I was talking about) and put his shoes on the right feet. He whined that I needed to help him, I told him he was a big boy and knew how to get dressed and if he wanted to be at school in time for breakfast he needed to go fix his clothes now.
I got out of the shower (because the baby peed on me! I usually shower before they get up), threw my clothes on and went to get everyone to the door and DS is sitting on his floor with his shoes on the wrong feet, his socks not even on anymore, his blue jeans on backwards and his fucking underpants on the outside of his jeans like a super hero!!!
I sent everyone else on to school with my wife. I told DS we would go when he was dressed. He is currently face down on his bedroom floor having an epic tantrum and is mostly naked. I told him I would not talk to him while he was acting like that and I would not fix his clothes for him so he could get to school on time.
Yes, ill feed him here before we go, but it won't be pancakes on a stick and sugar syrup yogurt in a tube! Most likely he will have a bowl of oatmeal, since thats what I was going to prepare for myself anyway.
So... how bad is this? Would it change your vote if this were a proper school aged child (1st grade or beyond?). For the record, unless it was a test day or something with a rigid time cut off id probably do the same thing even if he were in 4rd grade, just with more concequences attached.