Last night, kiddo wanted to stay the night with her friend. Ok, cool. She packs up and heads over. An hour or so later, she comes back, her friend helping her carry her stuff. They are both not happy. Thinking they had a fight, I ask what's wrong. Dd told me her friend's mom had a friend over, a young guy, and that friend was picking on them. When dd yelled at him to give her shoes back, which he had taken and I guess put on, he threw them and called her a "queen bitch". The girls go back to get a couple things that dd left. Mil calls in and says I need to get out there because they are outside getting onto the girls. Mil says she could hear this kid yelling. When I got out there, they aren't yelling, but friend's mom tries to head me off. I just say first, you don't call my kid a bitch. She acted like she didn't hear him say that, but I believe my kid. They try to play it off like he said it but wasn't directed at dd. Dh comes over and kid (21 y/o guy) disappears into the house. We aren't being loud or anything, talking calmly believe it or not, but dh tells her that if dude comes out and gives apology, we're cool. He comes out a few minutes later and apologizes to dh, dd and me and we talk to friend's mom a little. This guy might be moving in with her for a while. Idc who she has living with her, but I really don't want dd hanging out with this guy. Did I mention, this is the neighbor who babysits for me?
Later, dd told me that when I came over, they were getting onto them for coming over without someone watching or walking with them. Uh, they walk alone all the time. Dd is 9 and they live next door. I just told dd that she is always allowed to come home from over there. Ugh, I might be finding a new sitter and that sucks this time of year. Not to mention how convenient it is for everyone. :/ I just don't feel comfortable with dd being around someone who is going to call her names like that the first time she meets them.