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I'm sick of saying "I'm fortunate"

Anonymous
Posted by Anonymous
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Whenever I talk about how my family is doing, I always have to say "We are fortunate" and I am sick of it!!!!!  I am a SAHM and we can afford it.  We can afford vacations, pretty much whatever the kids want.  We are not rich by any stretch but we are doing mighty fine.  And we are not fortunate; we worked really damn hard to get here.

There were times when I had 3 jobs to make ends meet,  loans had to be taken out, we did without, etc.  But we worked really hard to get where we are and I am just sick of having to play it down or apologize.  We planned to have kids after we could afford them and used BC when we didn't want to have any and -gasp- used more than one form when needed.  We worked jobs that really sucked, for people who sucked even more because we needed the paycheck.  Went to college and then went back when needed.  

Why can't I just enjoy what I have worked for?

Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:05 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:10 PM
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Why do you HAVE to say it?

"How's the family?"
"We're doing great! Kids are crazy busy and growing up so fast! I can't believe Janie's starting middle school next fall."

Done.
outtamymynd
by Ruby Member on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:11 PM
So don't say it. Easy peasy.
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Momniscient
by Ruby Member on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:12 PM
Uh ok.
Then stop.

I'm certain you'll live through it though. You can enjoy whatever you want.
Hannahluvsdogs
by Ruby Member on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:13 PM

Who's making you justify your lifestyle?

abrittani
by on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:13 PM

So don't say that? Many other options available to you....

FoxFire363
by Ruby Member on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:13 PM
You are still fortunate. Yes, you worked hard and that deserves praise. But you are still fortunate in a number of ways.
teri4lance
by Platinum Member on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:13 PM
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I think you don't understand what fortunate means. Jsut because you are are the reason you are fortunate doesn't change it. maybe you will feel better if you say - we worked really hard for this, and we are enjoying it.

o.0
by Silver Member on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:14 PM
Does your financial situation come up in conversation often? How boring must those conversations be.
funlovinlady
by Gold Member on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:14 PM

Don't feed into it anymore. 

squeekers
by Platinum Member on Jun. 12, 2014 at 10:14 PM
So say, 'so far so good' instead.
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