Anyway. I have an 8 yr old stepdaughter and a 10 yr old stepson. They are with us for the summer. While I've been around them before at Christmas and our wedding, this is the longest time we will have stayed together living in the same home.
My stepson is not an issue. He is very independent and does his own thing happily whenever we aren't busy doing family things. My stepdaugHter is a totally different story. She is constantly up my husbands butt, following him around begging for constant attention. She,s always bored. Always wants my husband to entertain her, can't entertain herself for 5 minutes. She even barges into our bedroom looking for daddy when we are in there with the door closed.
I was ill the other night (I have serious health problems that make me very sick sometimes and my husband generally sees to my needs when things are bad) and my husband couldn't be there fir me as he usually is because she insisted on building a fort. My husband and I put in a scary movie last night at 11 o'clock after the kids bedtime and wanted to spend some time cuddling on the couch but we ended up having to take it off and out in a family movie and she proceeded to get in between us on the couch and insisted he snuggle her because she couldn't sleep.
My husband is going back to work tonight after a week off and I'm not even getting to spend any time with him because she decided NOW is time for him to take her out on the 4 wheeler which she refused to do all week because she was too scared.
I realize she is his daughter and kids come first. I also realize its a new situation for her and we will have some growing pains adjusting. But I find myself resenting her more and more and then feeling guilty for feeling that way. I feel like he needs to spend time with her but not at the expense of his marriage and our needs as a newly married couple. I don't want to end up hating this child. She is actually very sweet and fun and good hearted...but I need time with my husband too.
I don't know. Maybe I'm just hormonal because I'm 7 weeks pregnant :/